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Miffed at brother's arrogance... self-importance.
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Magicmystery Senior Member
since 2002-02-13
Posts 821Windsor, Ontario, Canada 
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My mother took my son back to Toronto with her for her vacation. The both of them were having a great time... seeing the Science Centre and planned on a Ball game for Friday night... She got sick. But she still took him and my nephew to the Bluejay's game even though she felt miserable. She didn't want to disappoint them both. I wouldn't have blamed her if she didn't. Her alternative would have been to "dump" both of the kids and tickets on my brother's girlfriend and have her take them instead but figured she would probably pitch the tickets instead. She got sicker... and both the kids were staying over night.... She was supposed to take my nephew home to my brother's on Saturday afternoon after a swim... and take my son back to Windsor on Sunday. She was to sick to do either. She called my brother to come and get his kid and asked if my son could tag along as far as they were going ... camping in London. I could arrange for other members of the family to pick him up and take him the rest of the way home. This SHOULD NOT have put my brother out as much as he made it seem. He said that my mother was NOT really sick and accused her further of thinking herself into being sick by taking preventative measures such as echanacia and that she should have been able to make good on the commitment to taking my son back instead of what she was doing (taking many remedies that make one drowsy and staying put to recover) I believe her commitment to my son's and my nephews safety was at the front of her thoughts.... My brother, on the other hand, cannot see past the fact that she put him out.... he had to come one half hour out of his way to come and get his own kid. And that he had to have the both of them tagging along for the afternoon before he was ready to leave on the trip.... I did thank him for partially returning my son when he called.... but now he is complaining no one has thanked him for his efforts.... I think he needs to get a grip,....... and his ego needs to lose some weight ...... comments anyone.... pissed off poem is Impatient Heart Sherry |
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serenity blaze Member Empyrean
since 2000-02-02
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Life is short. Blink? And the people we love are GONE. Give them a break. Family...don't take that for granted--you just may ache for the sound of their voice one day, however discordant. Hugs to you, but don't let the sun catch you crying.  |
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anya Member
since 2002-07-27
Posts 393London, UK |
ah the joys of family polotics, it is amazing how the littlest things can transform into a major issue, my uncle got a new house and my mother didn't go down to see it in the first two months, i mean she was busy and she doesn't drive, my uncle took offence and now they arn't talking, I don't know why people are so sensitive with things concerned with there families, your brother does seem to have over reacted, but I'm sure he will forget about it soon enough, things like that always seem to blow over |
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Magicmystery Senior Member
since 2002-02-13
Posts 821Windsor, Ontario, Canada |
God bless ya both... and I know.. my brother and I have been tight for most of our lives... but this is ongoing... he never wants to cut anyone slack... except himself... and pushy and the bullying... I want to tell him what he is full of ..... that is besides himself... I don't like the way he's been treating our mother. |
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serenity blaze Member Empyrean
since 2000-02-02
Posts 27738 |
and hey...love, MUCH LOVE, back to you. But you have to weigh the decision...I do also believe that folks are allowed to divorce their family. I also have questionable relations, that? I simply decided that I would do what I can do for them, meaning, I help when I can. But? there are a couple in my family, I would not "cut a check for". I will buy them groceries, I will send them clothes--but? I realized a long time ago, their choices "colored" mine--and personally, I'm not strong enough to survive the lifestyle that they have chosen--choices that I have discovered could overwhelm ME. Even Jesus Christ knew that he had to sometimes fortify himself--he went to the mountain top to pray and fast and meditate--even from his CHOSEN apostles. You cannot give, what you do not have. HUGS you...and PEACE |
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alterego Member
since 2002-02-23
Posts 113Toronto, Ontario, Canada |
Just to set the record straight..... Sherry, I really appreciate that you would want to defend me against what you perceive as your bullying brother, and yes, he has a knack for blustering, but you also have to see that as your mother, I really don't like to see you guys at odds. You also need to remember that at times he can be a big pile of goo in the heart department. No, I'm not making excuses for him, because I am still pretty annoyed at him, but I also know that, in spite of his lashing out presently, he does have a heart of mush under all that bluster. My perception is that there is something else bugging him, and if he were to really examine his life, he'd figure out what that is. You only have one brother, and in spite of the fact that you two don't always, or even often, see eye-to-eye on things, you BOTH need to be more forgiving of the others' weaknesses. My brother and I have not always had an easy time, either, but now that we're older (and hopefully, wiser), and our respective health issues seem to come to the forefront more frequently than past, we both have come to realize that our "differences", and even our attitudes, don't really matter as much as the fact that we still care a lot about each other. And wouldn't want to NOT have the other around, if you get my gist. I'm a tough old bird, and in spite of the fact that I cry easily (like right now), I think I have what it takes to stand up on my own to whatever your bro thinks he can throw at me. I don't want you two fighting over me. Period. Love you both very much, Mom Create something infinite today - Smile!!! |
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serenity blaze Member Empyrean
since 2000-02-02
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sigh...listen to your mom... damn. I know how lame that might sound..but? LISTEN TO YOUR MOM!!! (none of us really know what you're going through, yanno?) |
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Magicmystery Senior Member
since 2002-02-13
Posts 821Windsor, Ontario, Canada |
alright you guys.... I ain't fighting with him.... i just don't like being on my guard all the time for when that big pile of goo decides to throw himself in my direction..... but alas.... you cannot tell the narsasistic that they like themselves too much and the egotistical that they think of themselves too much. because as you do you too are talking about them.... and expending your precious energy doing so.... I will stop wasting mine here. Much love, Sherry |
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