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Irie Senior Member
since 1999-12-01
Posts 1493Washington State 
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AAAAARRRRRRGGGGGGGGG  *Irie pulls hair and screams at the top of her lungs* Just after I get rid of my Holiday blues, it's back! I don't understand why certain people (husband) find it necessary to call me at work and complain about trivial things, or to tell me something my son has done that day that could have waited until I got home! He does this at work, when I am going out somewhere..... Nothing I do is right these days... etc etc etc! There is almost always something! Some times I get the feeling that he isn't pleased with me working full time. Does he feel like he's losing some kind of grip on me? Fear of me gaining my independence back? I just don't understand and I have tried and tried to tell him but he doesn't get it.  OH, that feels better. Thank you for listening. What can I do to get it through his head, short of poking him in the eye? ~Sheri |
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Nan
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Member Seraphic
since 1999-05-20
Posts 21191Cape Cod Massachusetts USA |
He's missing you - and looking for some of the attention he's accustomed to getting from you... He just doesn't know how to say what's really bugging him - Maybe he doesn't know himself... Give him an extra hug and tell him how special he is - It goes a long way... and... Merry Christmas...  |
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Mother_Earth Senior Member
since 2000-11-20
Posts 13701/2 year Texas & 1/2 year Michigan |
Irie, first a big hug. Now can you call him at work or out on the road or just when you are out of his sight? Try calling him and just ask how he is doing or something to share. At home keep checking to see if all is alright. No matter how long you have the "dear" around, you are the care giver. I have been doing this for 46 years and still run into the same thing. Take it one day at a time and hope he learns to be seperated for a minute or so. In other words....there is no cure! Sorry, ME |
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Sven
since 1999-11-23
Posts 14937East Lansing, MI USA |
I would have to agree with those above. . . who are indeed much wiser on this subject than I. . . barring that. . . a subtle sledgehammer??? ------------------------------------------------------ To the world, you may only be one person. But to one person, you may be the world. |
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Moon Dust
since 1999-06-11
Posts 2177Skelmersdale, UK |
turn the tables on him and get ya own back But personaly i'd listen to ME over me cos she got the best plan I breathe the dust, the dust is me. |
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NapalmsConstantlyConfused
since 2001-05-15
Posts 529 |
i tend to agree, he's maybe missing you and not sure how to deal with it. Guys tend to be insecure like that, it's a flaw of our wrinkly little brains. best advice from me? simple - tell him, over and over again, just like talking to a five-year-old, that you're not taking anything away from the relationship (especially yourself) and that you just need some time to adjust to things. again and again and again. failing that, give him a playstation 2. that'll keep his mind off it. -Dave |
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Titia Geertman Member Ascendant
since 2001-05-07
Posts 5182Netherlands |
I don't know, I just like it when my hubby calls me for trivial things. I do the same to him and I've done that since he's not working anymore, but taking care of the house. (well he thinks he's taking care, but he only sees dust below eyelevel  )Don't scold him, just give him some time to ajust to a new situation. You're getting all new impressions, he's not you know. His world is a small one compared to yours. Keep that in mind and turn your irritation into understanding, that way love will last longer. I can tell, I've been married for 33 years. Titia A rose is a rose is a rose...I guess... |
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Irish Rose Member Patricius
since 2000-04-06
Posts 10263 |
he sounds like he just needs a little attention. Husbands are like that  I wouldn't worry but you know Valentine Day is approaching and maybe you could plan something very special for just the two of you? Kathleen--(Kay) |
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Sunshine
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Member Empyrean
since 1999-06-25
Posts 63354Listening to every heart |
Oh...do I know this! Hang in there...it will either get better, or go away...or not. There y'go. |
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Irie Senior Member
since 1999-12-01
Posts 1493Washington State |
Sorry all, I am a bit slow with my reply.... Thank You so much for all of your advice. He's lightening up a bit, and so am I. Things are getting better!  Thank You all again ~Sheri |
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