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anya Member
since 2002-07-27
Posts 393London, UK |
I need some impartial advice, my boyfriend just came back from Amsterdam, he went with his mates, he admitted that he had slept with two other girls and said how he had to be honest and that it meant nothing and it was just that he was drunk and he was on a lads holiday and now really regrets it all, i dumped him but now am not sure, he has done alot for me and we went out for about seven months, what I want advice on is, is it the same if he cheats on me when he is abroad and drunk and with his mates etc, is it different from him sleeping with a girl at home, and he did own up to it, I don't know, well give me your opinions does cheating on holiday count? [This message has been edited by anya (08-23-2002 08:06 AM).] |
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Poet deVine
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Member Seraphic
since 1999-05-26
Posts 22612Hurricane Alley |
How old are you and your boyfriend? Did he practice safe sex and use protection? This is strictly MY opinion - cheating is cheating...why should it be ok just because he was on a holiday with his friends? |
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Greeneyes![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]()
since 2000-09-09
Posts 9903In Your Poetic Mind |
Cheating any time counts...and arent you worth more then that??? YES you are "kick him to the curb" Lauren~ The ocean looks like a thousand diamonds strewn across a blue blanket |
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Midnitesun![]()
since 2001-05-18
Posts 28647Gaia |
If he does it "on holiday" he'll do it at home. But only you can decide if that is OK or not. Hope you are being 'safe.' |
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anya Member
since 2002-07-27
Posts 393London, UK |
I don't think it is OK to cheat, he has hurt me very much but I think he may be really sorry and that he was just caught up in the feeling of being on a lads holiday, mabey I am deluding myself |
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Sunshine
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Member Empyrean
since 1999-06-25
Posts 63354Listening to every heart |
Ask this...if you did it to him, would he still be hanging around? No. |
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bsquirrel![]()
since 2000-01-03
Posts 7855 |
It was nice that he was honest. But, frankly, he should now take that honesty somewhere else. Don't put up with that crap. |
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Alexia![]()
since 2001-06-07
Posts 164Sweet And Sassy |
You dont deserve that crap. Once a cheater, always a cheater! alexia |
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anya Member
since 2002-07-27
Posts 393London, UK |
So nobody thinks cheating on holiday is in anyway different, yeah if I'm honest I know that anyway, I think this was just my last half hearted attempt to justify his actions to myself, it hasn't worked, I mean really all I have had is three days of solid advice on this from my friends telling me to keep away from him, well time to be honest with myself and accept the fact that although i still care for him all trust is gone |
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Skyfire![]() ![]() ![]() ![]()
since 2000-12-27
Posts 3381Riding |
Been there, done that honey. Once a cheater, always a cheater. It's hard, I know. Email me sometime, okay? *hugs* You WILL get through this, I promise. |
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Greeneyes![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]()
since 2000-09-09
Posts 9903In Your Poetic Mind |
So nobody thinks cheating on holiday is in anyway different how is it different??????> , yeah if I'm honest I know that anyway, I think this was just my last half hearted attempt to justify justify what?? he cheated? how do you justify that???? be honest with yourself! ![]() The ocean looks like a thousand diamonds strewn across a blue blanket |
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paper doll Member
since 2002-08-04
Posts 133Floating on Uncertainty |
Haven't you heard about the area code/country rule? If it's out of this country, it doesn't count. Ok, bad joke. I personally think that if my partner were to cheat on me whilst they were on holiday, it'd be fine as long as I could do exactly the same thing back to them. More often than not, it always comes back to, "But that'd make ME feel uncomfortable" and they wouldn't allow it. It's double standards, chicka. Don't put up with that crap. You're unhappy about it and don't think that it's right so that means don't accept it. You've done the right thing. Keep him away and find someone that is deserving of your time. ![]() Imagination=nostalgia for the past, the absent; it is the liquid solution in which art develops the snapshots of reality. |
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Moon Dust![]() ![]()
since 1999-06-11
Posts 2177Skelmersdale, UK |
nah cheatings the same where eva you go. if you should take him back? thats up to you he was honest. But if you cant trust him again then I'd say lose him. If your afraid of the dark, then why did you come? |
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anya Member
since 2002-07-27
Posts 393London, UK |
Just a quick thankyou for all your advice, it has helped me, just to let you know I have finished it completly with this guy and to be honest I feel like a weight has been lifted! Have got 'clousure' you might say, thankyou again, Anya |
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