Okay..the title "evil internet relationship game players" is perhaps a bit sarcastic from me. Not a good way to start off a discussion, but hey...lol..would ya rather me sugar coat it?    

Mmmkay..before I start, I'd like to say YES I realize it DOES happen, BUT people are also often unfairly labled with that reputation. I'd like to speak more about it below.   I hope everyone can stay on track with this discussion and read THOROUGHYLY everything I have to say as I think I've covered every little detail I could.   If I've missed any point, then let me know. My brain is frazzled from two weeks worth of all day every day stress!  


I wanted to address the issue of flirting that some seem to be so stirred up about. Some are apologizing openly for doing so, and I don't think its necessary to do so unless you feel you've crossed a line. If you feel you've crossed a line, then perhaps the apology should be to the person you feel you crossed it with, and not to the people here at Passions. I'm not berating anyone for doing so, just stating my feelings on it.

There is nothing wrong with harmless flirting because harmless flirting usually means there is a mutual (whether spoken or not) agreement between the two engaged in it that its all in jest or fun.  Anything that goes beyond that should remain the business of whoever is involved. I encourage people not to judge the people who do this though, because can we really tell all of the time on here if we are making a friendly wink at a friend we're joking with or if we're flirting? Unless we have some specific information from the people involved, we really don't know what is going on.(even that sometimes is not accurate) Anything that goes beyond harmless flirting should remain the business of whoever is involved. If we don't truly know the facts (or even if we do) then it really should not be our concern or business. (umm..yeah...here i just think I said the same thing like three times..there are those darned communication skills killed by stress.  )

I understand that there are rumors of Passions in Poetry seductresses and casanovas, but still it is not up to us to protect other people (unless the situation is possibly dangerous, then it would be possibly be up to an admin or webmaster...I'm still studying that one)as they are inclined to do whatever suits them anyway. It is, however, up to us to protect ourselves against this type of thing if we feel the need, by distancing ourselves from it.

I really would encourage people to be a little less inclined point fingers and also a little less swift to judge the interaction, whether flirty or not, here in these forums. Everything is not what it seems, and what is seems is not everything that is happening. Umm..does that mean the same thing?  

Thats all I have to say for now.   Hope someone can make sense of it.  

G'night, and Thankers for reading!

*Jenn*

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Kathleen
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