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I Too Must Grieve for Tyler
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I Too Must Grieve for Tyler |
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Christopher
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Member Rara Avis
since 1999-08-02
Posts 8296Purgatorial Incarceration 
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it is not a silent pain, this loss of a son. I only know, because, I watched his eyes widen in disbelief and felt his shout, God, his shout of grief; “Tyler died!?!” what could I do, standing there in my own silence, grieving for him, for the four years he loved a grandchild, even as I imagined the loss of my own son. to never see that smile again... it is too much to bear. and now, my pain can no longer be silent. I too must grieve for Tyler. |
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Rainbowdust Member
since 2002-12-05
Posts 320Sydney, Australia |
My heart goes out to you Chris.. *hugs* The soul would have no rainbows, had the eyes no tears. |
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Martie
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Member Empyrean
since 1999-09-21
Posts 28049California |
Chris.....The empathy of feeling someone elses pain as if it was your own, really hurts. You say it so well!  |
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Gentle Spirit Member Patricius
since 2000-10-09
Posts 13989 |
Christopher sometimes we feel others pain as it it were our own because we care so much. Your words are deeply moving.  |
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Christopher
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Member Rara Avis
since 1999-08-02
Posts 8296Purgatorial Incarceration |
Thank you Martie, Rainbow. It's horrible. And I can't seem to get it out of my head. I guess now, as a father, it's too personal. |
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Christopher
Moderator
Member Rara Avis
since 1999-08-02
Posts 8296Purgatorial Incarceration |
Sorry, Donna, you slipped in there on me. You may be right. Thank you for your words. |
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Martie
Moderator
Member Empyrean
since 1999-09-21
Posts 28049California |
Chris....What happened and to who. I got to worrying...you're not talking about your son dying are you? I think it must be someone else's son from the sound of the poem. Someone else with that same name? Could you please explain? |
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Christopher
Moderator
Member Rara Avis
since 1999-08-02
Posts 8296Purgatorial Incarceration |
Sorry, Martie. Received a call today from one of my employee's mother. She asked me to stand by him while she told him that his four-year-old grandson Tyler had died. It was possibly one of the emotionally hardest things I have ever done in my life, to hear his grief. I don't know what happened to Tyler. Last I heard, he had a minor cold. Now this. I don't think I made the connection until you asked, but Tyler is my son's middle name. Aiden is his first. So sad. And, what can I do to help, but be there if he needs anything?  Thank you Martie for your concern. I really appreciate it. |
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Martie
Moderator
Member Empyrean
since 1999-09-21
Posts 28049California |
Christopher I'm so glad it wasn't your Tyler. I went searching to find your son's name...and then did a little math and saw that he must be only two, not the four of the Tyler in your poem. A difficult situation, to be there for someone grieving. I'm sure you were very helpful, as you indicate in the heart with which you felt his emotion. Take care! |
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Mysteria 
since 2001-03-07
Posts 18328British Columbia, Canada |
This is going to hit you square between the heart and gut being a father now Christoper. I think any parent that loses a child or sees them go before them is possibly the most devastating thing there could be, and the hardest to grieve. I am so sorry for their loss, and your heartache, it must be terrible for all. |
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Edward Grim Senior Member
since 2005-12-18
Posts 1154Greenville, South Carolina |
God, man, I'm so sorry. I know what it's like to lose a loved one, it's harder than words can describe. You will be in my prayers. And I hope you find peace in this time of pain. - Ed |
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The Lady Member Rara Avis
since 2005-12-26
Posts 7634The Southwest |
Christopher, "It was possibly one of the emotionally hardest things I have ever done in my life, to hear his grief." I am glad that your heart was brave enough to be with him while he took this terrible blow. I admire you greatly. Your poem is profoundly touching. |
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serenity blaze Member Empyrean
since 2000-02-02
Posts 27738 |
The sadness is ... oh C. It can knock y'off your knees. |
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tracie66 Member Elite
since 2000-01-18
Posts 4713Australia |
Christopher~ This is so sad, my heart goes out to you and those concerned. ~hugs~  sweetie Tracie Love is the life of the soul... |
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PouringJewels Member
since 2003-09-18
Posts 158Maryland |
The only comfort I can give, is that he is needed now for a better purpose. |
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babygirlwlove Senior Member
since 2004-10-10
Posts 1180New York City |
**s o u n d s** a loss~ godspeed, Tyler~ ~feeling this deeply Christopher~ ~babygirL **Intoxicant to the SouL** |
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LeeJ Member Patricius
since 2003-06-19
Posts 13296 |
children coming into our lives seem to spark a whole new changing perspective...Christopher, sending prayers for you and yours... |
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littlewing Member Rara Avis
since 2003-03-02
Posts 9655New York |
*nodding with Julia up there* But there is NOTHING, sadly, to help with the loss of anyone, especially a child, besides the strength of the soul of that child, his family and those around him to support him, as you are. I can NEVER nor want to imagine this happening to me. You are a good man - doing the right thing and you don't even have to question it, do you? See? |
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BluesSerenade Member Patricius
since 2001-10-23
Posts 10549By the Seaside |
These sort of situations just break my heart. We do indeed feel others pain and sorrow as if it were our own, because we're human. Bless you, Christopher~ You are a kind and caring, gentle man~ |
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OwlSA Member Rara Avis
since 2005-11-07
Posts 9347Durban, South Africa |
What Kate said and tears for you, your employee and his family. Thank you for being there for him. - Owl |
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vandana
since 1999-10-22
Posts 10463USA |
enjoyed  |
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INclan Senior Member
since 1999-07-20
Posts 1024Indiana, USA |
Christopher, I have been there. I share YOUR pain. Too many times.... INclan |
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latteaddict213
since 2006-02-17
Posts 523Colorado |
very sad. sorry for your loss. nice write though xoxo |
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Midnitesun
since 2001-05-18
Posts 28647Gaia |
Oh my. Heart hugs to Tyler's family, and to you, Chris. Thank you for allowing us to help carry the heavy burden of grieving the loss of someone so young. RIP, Tyler, your soul is now forever free. |
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Sunshine
Administrator
Member Empyrean
since 1999-06-25
Posts 63354Listening to every heart |
I held back from reeling... and reading... but today I felt I could... and should... and did. Thank you for your compassion. |
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skyshine
since 2002-02-07
Posts 3058Beneath the northern stars |
This hits me hard too, in the same way, Christopher. Your compassion shows through in this. ~sky I hope someday you get the chance to live like you were dying.... |
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iliana Member Patricius
since 2003-12-05
Posts 13434USA |
Christopher...this is so heartfelt. Parenthood does change our hearts. It is like any child is like our own, and when it hits close to home.....well...  |
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nakdthoughts Member Laureate
since 2000-10-29
Posts 19200Between the Lines |
I have been there....even if in a different way...to have to tell my Mother in another room, that my sister ( her first born) has just died next to me. There is a strength that kicks in until you have some quiet time to yourself and it is then that you "feel" and need to grieve. M |
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suthern
since 1999-07-29
Posts 20723Louisiana |
The compassion of this is beautiful... My sympathies to you and Tyler's family! |
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Juju Member Elite
since 2003-12-29
Posts 3429In your dreams |
Iam sorry. -Juju -<>-~-<>-~-<>- |
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Marge Tindal
since 1999-11-06
Posts 42384Florida's Foreverly Shores |
Christopher~ I've read this maybe 6 times now ... it touches the tender of this mother's heart~ Well-written, compassionate penning of a difficult emotional moment~ *Huglets* ~*Marge*~ ~*The sound of a kiss is not as strong as that of a cannon, but it's echo endures much longer*~ |
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