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Grief and Suffering...Uninvited Guests |
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Larry C
since 2001-09-10
Posts 10286United States 
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Uninvited Guests By Larry Chadwick Grief showed up at my door. She came unannounced and uninvited. Without question she was intrusive upon arrival and persistent in her delivery. I let her in. I considered my options and none of them were good. She brought Suffering with her but I sent him away. She came bearing tears and heartache, which I humbly accepted. She stayed longer than I wanted and left sooner than I expected. But after she departed I found a message she left for me. It seems Suffering was horribly disappointed not to be let in. He had come prepared for a very long stay. He brought despair and hopelessness in great quantities in the desire that I would indulge in his generosity. And she noted that they never stayed together in the same place and thanked me for choosing her. She wished me well and expressed a certainty that I would be fine. It seems she’ll likely visit again. But this time she has no intent of bringing Suffering with her. He rarely goes where he is not wanted. And he knew he was not welcome at my place. We’re not close friends, Grief and I, but we do understand each other. January 17, 2003 If tears could build a stairway and memories a lane, I'd walk right up to heaven and bring you home again. [This message has been edited by Larry C (02-18-2003 11:06 PM).] |
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Kellie_Cantrell Senior Member
since 2002-05-22
Posts 1667New York |
Definately has my vote. Love ya larry |
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Mistletoe Angel 
since 2000-12-17
Posts 32816Portland, Oregon |
 (big hugggssssssss) Oh Larry, I continue to send prayers out to you and your family, dearest friend, we all compassionately sympathize with your recent losses but know your Ginger and your father will always love you and your family so very much and though the grief may always leave a scar in your heart, there will also always be a love ever growing fro your golden heart, which can compassionately give to others, and that is what your loved ones want, for you to be you and to embrace the world while on angel wings they guide you every step of the way! (wipes tears) If you ever need anyone to talk to, you can always e-mail me, I will be happy to lend you a shoulder, God Bless You, you have my vote and special healing angel hugs, we all love you so much! You have such a beautiful heart, sweet Larry, thank you for sharing! Mayn love and light always shine upon you! Love, Noah Eaton "Underneath your clothes there's an endless story..." |
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GG Member Elite
since 2002-12-03
Posts 3532Lost in thought |
oh wow, I like this. It seems like on of those writings I might find in an email forward.. but better. And it is very true, we don't need to accept the suffering, though grief inevitably will come. Thank you for this beautiful write. Always, Alyssa - And so it was that time stood still - |
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garysgirl
since 2002-09-29
Posts 19237Florida, USA |
Friend, very good and you've got my vote...  Ethel |
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Dark Angel Member Patricius
since 1999-08-04
Posts 10095 |
This is beautiful. I'm speechless. Voting! |
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Sunshine
Administrator
Member Empyrean
since 1999-06-25
Posts 63354Listening to every heart |
A companion piece, to sit within...yes Larry, I am glad you brought this one in. |
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Kit McCallum
Administrator
Member Laureate
since 2000-04-30
Posts 14774Ontario, Canada |
The perspective you've written this from, touches me deeply, Larry. An excellent write, and choice for book submission. Best wishes and hugs, /Kit |
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Nan
Administrator
Member Seraphic
since 1999-05-20
Posts 21191Cape Cod Massachusetts USA |
You're a man of much wisdom, my friend... You have an amazing way of lifting your head to see the sunlight above cloudy skies... |
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Charisma
since 2000-09-30
Posts 5906lost in blue pages |
 Charisma |
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Connel
since 2002-11-04
Posts 736Florida, USA |
Very cool... VOTE Anyone can write, But only poets can capture the heart. |
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Marshalzu
since 2001-02-15
Posts 2681Lurking |
This is such a wonderful read, thank you for sharing  |
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Earth Angel Member Empyrean
since 2002-08-27
Posts 40215Realms of Light |
Larry, this one is special from beginning to end and you convey your message in a comforting and easy manner. You are definitely more than just a pretty face! You're not getting older, you're getting better! Warm appreciative hugs, Linda |
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El_Campeador Senior Member
since 2003-01-29
Posts 761Ohio, USA |
He who learns to accept grief is he who will be happiest. You have my vote. “We are all travelers in the wilderness of this world, and the best that we can find in our travels is an honest friend.” –Robert Louis Stevenson [This message has been edited by El_Campeador (02-18-2003 01:35 PM).] |
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bsquirrel
since 2000-01-03
Posts 7855 |
Larry, You are able to find humor even in the sadness of loss. I love that about your writing. This so belongs in a book. Mike |
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Local Parasite
since 2001-11-05
Posts 2527Transylconia, Winnipeg |
This is really clever. See, Suffering and I, we go way back. Grief, on the other hand, isn't my style. Me? I'm doing OK.  Parasite "Faith" means the will to avoid knowing what is true. |
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Larry C
since 2001-09-10
Posts 10286United States |
Kellie, Thank you very much. Love ya'. Noah, Your kindness know no bounds. Thank you for your understanding. Alyssa, Thank you so much for such generosity. Ethel, Well dear girl thank you. DA, You are so kind. Thank you. Karlea, You are my sunshine! Thank you. Kit, Well now, you know how to touch my broken heart. Thank you. Nan, Dear friend such generous words. Thank you. Charisma,  Connel, Excellent! Thank you. Marshalzu, Thank you very much. Linda, I think I could settle, just once, for being a pretty face. Never done that before! And thank you. EC, Much truth in your response. Thank you. Mikie, Wonderful compliment. Thank you. LP, It is nice to know that you are OK! And thank you. If tears could build a stairway and memories a lane, I'd walk right up to heaven and bring you home again. |
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Janet Marie Member Laureate
since 2000-01-22
Posts 18554 |
you already know how I feel about this heartfelt piece. Can I give ya hug while I vote " ... And think not, that you can direct the course of love ... |
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hoot_owl_rn Member Patricius
since 1999-07-05
Posts 10750Glen Hope, PA USA |
You know Larry, it's hard to applaud and click that little vote button both at the same time and this one certainly deserves them both. This is a great piece of writting, but you certainly don't need me to tell you that do you? Bravo!!!!! |
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Larry C
since 2001-09-10
Posts 10286United States |
JM, Well now, that didn't compromise the hug at all. Bless you sweet friend for your faithful encouragement and support. Ruth, How kind of you. Thank you for such generous words.  If tears could build a stairway and memories a lane, I'd walk right up to heaven and bring you home again. |
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Kethry Member Rara Avis
since 2000-07-29
Posts 9082Victoria Australia |
I remember this, I liked it then and I like it now. Kethry Here in the midst of my lonely abyss, a single joy I find...your presence in my mind. Unknown |
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kaile
since 2000-02-06
Posts 5146singapore |
larry, this should of course be in the book. the last line, hauntingly poignant hugs |
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SPIRIT Senior Member
since 2002-12-29
Posts 1745California Desert |
Yes! Yes!! Yes!!! This certainly gets my vote. I be me BUT who does me be? |
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Sudhir Iyer Member Ascendant
since 2000-04-26
Posts 6943Mumbai, India : now in Belgium |
very well done... regards, sudhir |
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suthern
since 1999-07-29
Posts 20723Louisiana |
This would be touching even if I didn't know how determinedly grief had visited you recently... excellent work! |
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vlraynes Member Rara Avis
since 2000-07-25
Posts 8229Somewhere... out there... |
Larry~ Goosebumps here...this one touches deeply. Hugs to you, ~Vicky "...until you have read the verse on his heart, |
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Duncan Member Ascendant
since 2001-08-07
Posts 5455 |
I remember this Larry, truly one of your best. Nice to see ya here. |
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Martie
Moderator
Member Empyrean
since 1999-09-21
Posts 28049California |
Me too, a hug with the vote. |
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dgvarner Member Elite
since 2000-05-13
Posts 3552High Springs, Florida |
that was very cool....i enjoyed that... hugs, g "laughter is the shortest distance between two people" - victor borge |
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Mysteria
since 2001-03-07
Posts 18328British Columbia, Canada |
Well Larry you are a very unique individual and all I have to say is that she sure was lucky to have you for the time she was here, and I am sure you felt the same. Your pictures were incredible by the way. (hugs) |
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Enchantress Member Empyrean
since 2001-08-14
Posts 35113Canada eh. |
Larry...you always manage to squeeze one more tear out of me. ~heart hugs~ ~ Trace my body with your words.. |
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Lighthousebob Member Elite
since 2000-06-14
Posts 4725California |
Made me fumble around a bit for distinctions, but when I gave it some more serious thought, you are absolutely right!!! We can have Grief or Grieve without Suffering. Thank you for this very valuable lesson my friend. God bless you. -Bob |
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Balladeer
Administrator
Member Empyrean
since 1999-06-05
Posts 25505Ft. Lauderdale, Fl USA |
Damn fine writing here, Larry....you say it like it is and with class  |
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Bill Charles Member Patricius
since 2000-07-11
Posts 10619highways, & byways, for now |
Larry - my vote is yours for this write. I like it much... BC |
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Justbleu Member Elite
since 1999-08-31
Posts 3329Oregon, Originally From Alaska :) |
You write sooo wonderfully....  My vote is in... Bridgette |
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Nightshade
since 2001-08-31
Posts 13962just out of reach |
Larry - this gets my vote and a  Wonderful write. Chris "Hope" is the thing with feathers- |
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aries_luv_ppl Senior Member
since 2001-09-20
Posts 1448Universal Mind |
Like it! ~Every girl has a dream within. |
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nakdthoughts Member Laureate
since 2000-10-29
Posts 19200Between the Lines |
I think if I ~sigh~ any more tonight I will hyperventilate. A touching write Larry. M |
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Joyce Johnson
since 2001-03-10
Posts 9912Washington State |
I understand this one and you've expressed it beautifully. Four years today since grief came to my house but my son would not want me to invite suffering in.I vote for this one. Joyce [This message has been edited by Joyce Johnson (02-22-2003 07:49 PM).] |
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Chanson Senior Member
since 2000-08-19
Posts 1559Up Creek w/Out Paddle |
This tugs at the heart strings, Larry. Nicely written. When you think you have heard it all, |
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WinterWren Senior Member
since 2002-12-01
Posts 1044...Coming to |
This was very touching indeed, quite sad. I can relate to it, whether I was meant to or not. Beautiful Beautiful. It's going in my library and has my vote. WinterWren |
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Dr.Moose1 Member Elite
since 1999-09-05
Posts 3448Bewilderment , USA |
Larry, Written with great style and flair, and a touch of poignancy.Hats off to you on this one. Doc |
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Larry C
since 2001-09-10
Posts 10286United States |
Kethry, Thank you for your support. kaile, Thank you for such generous words. SPIRIT, Thank you, thank you, thank you. Much appreciated. Sudhir, Thank you very much. suthern, Thank you, always, for your kindness. Vicky, Awww, thank you so much. Duncan, Really? Cool and thanks. Martie, Thank you dear friend. g, Thank you for your kindness. Sharon, Your encouragement continues to mean very much to me! Bless you, always. Nancy Lee, It wasn't on purpose...honest. And thank you dear friend. Bob, Thank you for your observation. I'm glad it worked. Michael,  And thank you for such generosity!Bill, Thanks friend. Bridgette, Awww, thanks. Chris, Thank you and *kisses* back. a_l_p, Thanks. M, You are such a sweet friend. Thank you. JJ, I'm so sorry for your loss. This week I went through Ginger's birthday, the first since she died. And thank you for your kindness. Chanson, Thank you very much. WW, Oh how kind of you. And thank you. Doc, Thank you for your generosity. [This message has been edited by Larry C (02-23-2003 12:32 AM).] |
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Denise
Moderator
Member Seraphic
since 1999-08-22
Posts 22648 |
Sometimes the best poetry is created in times of deepest grief. This is one of them. Excellent expression, Larry. |
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Larry C
since 2001-09-10
Posts 10286United States |
Denise, Well something good must come out of it, eh? And thank you. If tears could build a stairway and memories a lane, I'd walk right up to heaven and bring you home again. |
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hoot_owl_rn Member Patricius
since 1999-07-05
Posts 10750Glen Hope, PA USA |
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Larry C
since 2001-09-10
Posts 10286United States |
Ruth, Thank you for your kindness. It is indeed appreciated. If tears could build a stairway and memories a lane, I'd walk right up to heaven and bring you home again. |
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Suetang Member Ascendant
since 2001-03-07
Posts 5187Melbourne, Australia |
Absolutely wonderful Larry. I could relate so very well to this. "Love is the lifeline I cling to when grief threatens to pull me down into eternal darkness." Take care......Sue I am in motion |
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Larry C
since 2001-09-10
Posts 10286United States |
Sue, Thank you. Yes, we have this in common. But that isn't all bad... If tears could build a stairway and memories a lane, I'd walk right up to heaven and bring you home again. |
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