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A Piece Of Paper Or A Marriage
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A Piece Of Paper Or A Marriage |
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garysgirl  
since 2002-09-29
Posts 19237Florida, USA 
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Does a piece of paper make a marriage This question I ponder today I have mixed emotions on this subject Because of what taught and life's observations So many today have not commitment Here today and then gone tomorrow Even in the event of Holy Matrimony Lives not planned out to be Seperations, divorces, hurt, confusion Lives of men, women, children torn apart My Love and I have commitment We've pledged our love to each other Promising to always be together Until death do us part Together for quite a few years, we are Depending on each other with trust Never wanting to hurt or harm the other, to protect Feeling as if already united, husband and wife United together in love, joy eternally, forever and a day "Married" in every sense of the word Except on a piece of paper We are totally committed united together We are a marriage of hearts united by God [This message has been edited by garysgirl (01-07-2003 01:45 PM).] |
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Salty Senior Member
since 2002-11-23
Posts 669Texas |
and that's what counts garysgirl  You got it figured out . ~Salty In the Midst of movement and chaos, keep stillness inside of you. |
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gemjop Member Elite
since 2002-11-18
Posts 2587Pencilveinia, USA |
i too have mixed feelings. i once felt that it's just a piece of paper, sometimes a womans desire to be a princess for a day, i vowed i would never be like that. though i still felt joy for others who wanted to marry, i still feel that if love is truly alive, god has already recognised , and married these souls, even if they are not legally married. i truly believed i would never marry ever. Then i found the man i know i will marry, who i had previously known for many years, and though i may be young, only 20, i know. Some might say i'm young and know nothing of life yet. But i know myself, and i know the man i love. i love the thoughts in this Ethel. United together in love, joy eternally, forever and a day "Married" in every sense of the word Except on a piece of paper We are totally committed united together We are a marriage of hearts united by God you said it so well. your words are so wise and true. lots of love, gemma xxxxxx learning each day, for you and i, our paths have met, i've already learnt that you are love. |
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garysgirl
since 2002-09-29
Posts 19237Florida, USA |
Salty, I'm glad that you agree. Thank you for reading......  "Love makes the world go around" |
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garysgirl
since 2002-09-29
Posts 19237Florida, USA |
Gemma, I really do believe in marriage. But, I think that too many couples have married out of obligation or because of what they've been taught. Never fully realizing what the word "Marriage" really means. I believe that when it is true and lasting love, the couple feels married before the actual vows are said. I have a feeling that you and your Love feel the same as Gary and I do about each other...already "married". "Love makes the world go around" |
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Mistletoe Angel
since 2000-12-17
Posts 32816Portland, Oregon |
 (tears fall down my cheeks) Oh Ethel, I believe every marriage should be like that and free of "Please sign here and there and put todays date" battalion! (sad sigh) I hope your love always shines and you hold the true beauty of marriage to heart, sweet friend, I pray someday I may get to lift my loves veil and kiss her in front of my loved ones, we all love you so much! You have such a beautiful heart, sweet Ethel, thank you for sharing! May love and light always shine upon you! Love, Noah Eaton "Underneath your clothes there's an endless story..." |
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passing shadows Member Empyrean
since 1999-08-26
Posts 45577displaced |
Ethel, don't try to figure anything out...just do what you feel is right, that's all. |
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garysgirl
since 2002-09-29
Posts 19237Florida, USA |
Noah, thank you for replying to me. I really appreciate it. Noah, I know that you look forward to getting married in front of all your family. Maybe one day you will. I hope so, friend.....  "Love makes the world go around" |
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garysgirl
since 2002-09-29
Posts 19237Florida, USA |
Yes Dixie.... Looks like I'd know that by now, doesn't it?? Thank you for caring, friend.... "Love makes the world go around" |
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inkedgoddess Member Rara Avis
since 2002-11-19
Posts 7392Ohio |
yes, a piece of paper, if youre young with kiddies and just starting out, its easier with the piece of paper , once the marriage ends, to track down daddy for child support when he takes off after the younger days, who needs it? |
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Tara Simms Hall Member
since 2001-11-07
Posts 87South Carolina |
In high school, I thought "it's only a piece of paper." But then, I had to ask myself "if it's only a piece of paper, why are so many people afraid/unwilling to get it?" It represents the ultimate commitment, when a couple is bound by the law. It offers protection/rights to the spouse that a verbal commitment alone can't give. If a person is committed to another, wouldn't they do all they can (and are able) to protect their loved one? |
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garysgirl
since 2002-09-29
Posts 19237Florida, USA |
Yes, inkedgoddess, when a couple is young and first starting out, this is very necessary. I don't think any woman should plan to have a child with a man who doesn't love her enough to get married....legally. "Love makes the world go around" |
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garysgirl
since 2002-09-29
Posts 19237Florida, USA |
Yes, Tara, you are totally right. You may have misunderstood what I was trying to say here. What I meant was that there are so many couples who go into marriage without even knowing what it's all about.... Not even knowing for sure that's the person they want to spend the rest of their lives with....not even really liking the type person they are marrying. Getting married just for the sake of it's the right thing for them to do..... Not getting married because they truly love someone. When I married the first time, I didn't even know what REAL LOVE was....probably why it ended in divorce. I am only saying that a couple should be sure they know what kind of person they are marrying before they get the "piece of paper". I know that legal matters are to be taken into consideration, but I don't think a couple should get married just for security, either....or for money or what they can get from the other material wise. In other words, I really believe that to make a marriage work, the couple (both of them)need to totally agree that they will work together at making it work. One person can't do this all by themselves....it has to be a mutual effort.....that's what I meant by feeling already "married" and about being "married" not just because there's a piece of paper. (BTW, this talk comes from many past experiences and mistakes made by me, personally) "Love makes the world go around" |
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NewEnglandlazurlu Member Rara Avis
since 2002-01-04
Posts 7470A Mountain Paradise |
Sweetie, I'd say you have this all figured out. Paper makes it legal, but loving from the heart makes it a lifetime. And in case you didn't see the reply, thank you again for the beautiful email. Loves and hugs, Marti |
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garysgirl
since 2002-09-29
Posts 19237Florida, USA |
Thank you, sweet Marti.. I'm glad to see that you are well enough to be here. Thank you for your sweet reply. I'm glad you liked the e-mail..  "Love makes the world go around" |
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NewEnglandlazurlu Member Rara Avis
since 2002-01-04
Posts 7470A Mountain Paradise |
I can only stay a few minutes at a time as it's just too painful to sit for very long! But, I wasn't able to be here yesterday and I miss reading all the poems. Hopefully, tomorrow will be a better day! Hugs again, Marti |
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dhicks03 Member
since 2002-12-26
Posts 267Missouri,USA |
Well, just my humble (often wrong) opinion, but yes, marriage is more than a piece of paper, much more....and more than a way to track someone, or legally hold them to commitments. I believe that is one of the most beautiful things two people can do, before God's eyes. It saddens me how it is looked upon now adays, but if you'd like to read more, I will send you a link. Explains a lot. This write though, was extremely good!! |
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garysgirl
since 2002-09-29
Posts 19237Florida, USA |
Marti, I hate that you're hurting so bad. I hope, also that you'll feel much better tomorrow.... "Love makes the world go around" |
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garysgirl
since 2002-09-29
Posts 19237Florida, USA |
Thank you, Dennis, for your reply. Your comments and opinions are very good ones. As you may have read in my response to a reply earlier, I do believe in marriage, and my Love and I will be married soon, but I think most couples take marriage too lightly. I meant in my poem, that a "marriage" is MORE than a piece of paper, not that it is unnecessary....... and that my Love and I already feel the commitment and the dedication to each other that a "married" couple should feel. It's as if we are already married..... "Love makes the world go around" ~~with love and hugs from Ethel~~ [This message has been edited by garysgirl (01-09-2003 12:05 AM).] |
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Larry C
since 2001-09-10
Posts 10286United States |
Ethel, Yup, you have all the ingredients. So get married already. You guys were made for each other!  If tears could build a stairway and memories a lane, I'd walk right up to heaven and bring you home again. |
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Charisma
since 2000-09-30
Posts 5906lost in blue pages |
beautiful said,  Charisma |
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garysgirl
since 2002-09-29
Posts 19237Florida, USA |
Larry, thank you so much for your heart-felt comments. You really don't know how much I appreciate them. "Love makes the world go around" |
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garysgirl
since 2002-09-29
Posts 19237Florida, USA |
Charisma, Thank you for reading and replying. I'm glad that you enjoyed. "Love makes the world go around" |
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