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Visitation of Regrets
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Visitation of Regrets |
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JamesMichael Member Empyrean
since 1999-11-16
Posts 33336Kapolei, Hawaii, USA |
Visitation of Regrets How many years does it really take to get over a divorce? The acceptance of the separation. The breaking of the eternal bond. The memories forever branded into the minds of a past failure which can never be reclassified from bad to good. The visitation of regrets reminding me how many lives were affected by my inability to give and receive love. More than ten years have gone by and on occasion I am still faced with the prospect that the disappointments will never properly go away. I can only speak for myself today. In my defense I have no words to say. Well at least it doesn't hurt any more. Does it? JamesLee April23 2002 |
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Dark Stranger Member Patricius
since 2001-03-19
Posts 13631West Coast |
hurts til it heals done a couple and are friends now well are friendly anyway tough stuff guy..but well done |
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Mistletoe Angel 
since 2000-12-17
Posts 32816Portland, Oregon |
 (big hugggssssss) Oh James, my heart goes out to you, I know how hard it must feel to get over such a heartache like this but I know now that you will share true happiness with your dream woman forever and the joy you share with her will always overshadow the sorrow of the divorce! (sigh) This is wonderfully compassionate, sweet friend, we all love you so much! You have such a beautiful heart, sweet James, thank you for sharing!  May love and light always shine upon you! Love, Noah Eaton |
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Seymour Tabin Member Empyrean
since 1999-07-07
Posts 31720Tamarac Fla |
James, Don't know the answer, but then again everyone is differant, enjoyed. |
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J. K. Mitchell Member
since 2002-01-12
Posts 311GA |
It might always hurt but you've got to learn from your mistakes so as not to repeat them. Touching piece... "The only love there is, is the love we make."--Prince |
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Marge Tindal
since 1999-11-06
Posts 42384Florida's Foreverly Shores |
JamesMichael~ Tenderly touching write~ 'The visitation of regrets reminding me how many lives were affected by my inability to give and receive love.' So profoundly stated, my friend~ *Hugs* ~*Marge*~ ~*The pen of the poet never runs out of ink, as long as we breathe.*~ |
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Ariana Senior Member
since 2000-10-08
Posts 571Orlando, Florida |
James Until your heart is filled with love again, the hurt will come back again and again. You have a good heart and it will be happy again. |
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Pearls_Of_Wisdom Member
since 2000-09-02
Posts 175 |
James, Thanks for sharing such a personal piece. That takes courage. I enjoyed it for the most part, and I like the honesty and taking responsibility theme. I do have some suggestions for possible improvement... Some parts seemed awkward to me, like: The memories forever branded into the minds of a past failure which can never be reclassified from bad to good. I like what you're trying to do here, but this is quite a long sentence. Also, the way you've set it up, the subject of the second line seems to be the mind of the past (and I'm not sure what you mean by that), when I think you mean the mind of the speaker. The next two lines sound very scientific, which doesn't seem fitting for your subject matter, IMHO. My main suggestion is making this a little less prosey. I realize it's tough for a semi-confessional poem like this. I think also, since you have it set up to be in grammatically correct sentences, it's extra difficult. But I think that would lend a lot of power to this. Get less rational and more emotional. We want to feel what you feel, not just hear logically what your thought process was. Through your words, I can see the pain that wants to come out, but I can't feel it fully yet. Hope that helps give you some ideas. Let me know what you think, Ashley |
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serenity blaze Member Empyrean
since 2000-02-02
Posts 27738 |
Loved the ending. the "Does it?" emphasizes the angst and uncertainty of the piece. Well done, James.  |
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Gentle Spirit Member Patricius
since 2000-10-09
Posts 13989 |
Like DS said, it hurts...til it heals. I think there is more to be written...until it quits hurting. Nicely written felt words. Like a red brick, |
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Joyce Johnson
since 2001-03-10
Posts 9912Washington State |
Your words show that divorce is not an easy way out. I lost my love to death and thought it was the ultimate. But who knows. In some cases divorce may just be harder. Joyce |
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Enchantress Member Empyrean
since 2001-08-14
Posts 35113Canada eh. |
The hurt eventually goes.... then when you remember... it's a touch of sadness you feel. But, it does get better... and now that you have a new love she should be of great comfort and happiness to you. ~Big Hugs~ ~Somewhere in my heart I'm always |
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CocoBaci Member Elite
since 2000-05-06
Posts 3043 |
Well at least it doesn't hurt any more. Does it? A very touching write PoetFriend and I thank you4sharing it... HugsNsmiles2Ualways... *~coco~* |
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Magnus
since 2001-10-10
Posts 14135South Carolina, USA |
JM....I can tell from these words that this is your own experience and feelings.... Does it?.....No, I don't think it does... I still remember....and sometimes it still hurts... Beautifully penned my friend... |
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suthern
since 1999-07-29
Posts 20723Louisiana |
Does it? Yes, it does... Not constantly, not even often... but sometimes... even after almost 20 years, even though I count him among my dearest of friends. Anyone entering marriage expecting to fail shouldn't be entering. The rest of us think it couldn't happen to us... and then have hopes and dreams and anticipation replaced with the bitter gall of failure. Those regrets fade... but they don't disappear. You've written a painful subject well, JM. *S* |
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Victoria
since 2000-08-12
Posts 5869 |
I guess its best not to think of the past james..as it can be a waste of time..hope you are planning a happy future..hugs ~Victoria |
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jwesley Member Rara Avis
since 2000-04-30
Posts 7563Spring, Texas |
Well James my man, I don't really want to mess up your mind, but I was divorced way back around '69-70 and some 30-plus years, and a very successful and satisfying marriage of almost 28 years, later, I STILL feel the emotional turmoil. I don't think one can truly love and just chunk that love out the door. I think (I know!) it stays with one all ones' life. I don't believe one really falls "out of love" if one truly loved. One may not be able to live with another anymore, for various reasons, but if one truly loved, unless something just god-awful was done to one, such love just does not fade away. It's particularly hard on one like me, or you, that never wanted the divorce. There's never closure. Anyway, yes, I still feel I love her and miss her (but then, I miss a lot of women and they never even married me!!! Hee, hee). So, how long...you plan on dying when??? Just need to get on with living, my man...there's a lot of life and love just waiting for anyone who wants it. You can dream, and think and wish, but you can't live in the past...today and tomorrow are what we are given, and we have to live in that world. You never forget, or stop wanting, loving, desiring, needing your past, and I don't think you should. It just has to be put where it belongs and remember for all that it provided as long as it did. Walk easy...James, jwesley |
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CocoBaci Member Elite
since 2000-05-06
Posts 3043 |
bumpity bump James |
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JamesMichael Member Empyrean
since 1999-11-16
Posts 33336Kapolei, Hawaii, USA |
Thank you so much dark stranger, Noah, Seymour, J.K., Marge, Ariana, Pearls of Wisdom, serenity, Gentle spirit, Joyce, Enchantress, Coco, Magnus, Suthern, Victoria and jwesley for the nice words of support and wisdom... I was suprised that it still bothers me over ten years later...not all the time but sometime. When regret visits you it is very real. But it is different then the pain you first feel following a divorce. My regrets are from my inability to love and be loved...I thought I really loved my wife....but if I did why didn't I treat her better. Why weren't my actions reflective of that love? And then I have the regrets of putting my sons through this...these thoughts will visit me for the rest of my life...James |
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