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Suetang
Member Ascendant

since 2001-03-07

Posts 5187
Melbourne, Australia

0 posted 2002-04-07 06:26 PM

THIS IS WRITTEN FOR ALL THOSE FATHERS WHO LOOKED ON HELPLESSLY AS THEIR WIVES SUFFERED POST NATAL DEPRESSION, FOR THEY ARE THE UNFORGOTTEN SUFFERERS IN THIS TERRIBLE DISEASE

* * * * *

My wife was once so happy
Now she sits all day and cries
She seems to see right through me
As tears flood her beautiful eyes

It was supposed to be so special
When our baby son was born
But life has become so confusing
I feel so guilty and forlorn

As a man I'm supposed to be strong
But like her I am falling apart
As I try desperately to find
The key to unlock her heart

Was it something that I said
To make her feel this way?
Whenever I leave to go to work
She begs and pleads for me to stay

No longer do we communicate
And every thing I say is wrong
We once lived in such sweet harmony
But how very sad now was the song

Being a parent is far from easy
Nobody hands you a "How To" guide
Just go by your intuition
Feelings of doubt one must always hide

I wonder what she's thinking
She's just not coping with this life
At times I feel quite scared
When I catch her staring at a knife

I'm taking my wife to see a doctor
Not another moment can I wait
He must have answers to our questions
I only hope it's not too late

* * * * *

I am writing this as a former sufferer of
post natal depression and as with many things
society expects men to be the strong ones
but forget that they can be hurt emotionally
as much as women and we need to be reminded
of that.I believe that the man suffers in
silence on many occasions and I wrote this
for all those men who tried in vain to
comfort their wives before seeking the
medical help they needed. I was one of
those wives.

Suetang

Magnus

Member Laureate

since 2001-10-10

Posts 14135
South Carolina, USA

1 posted 2002-04-07 06:40 PM

And you have expressed their feelings so
accurately and completely....

I think this applies to lives in general as
well...For men often do suffer in silence
too....Being the warrior that must always
be brave and guard the homefront...

Sunshine

Administrator

Member Empyrean

since 1999-06-25

Posts 63354
Listening to every heart

2 posted 2002-04-07 07:05 PM

Sue, it takes a great deal of courage to recognize our weaknesses! You should be very proud of yourself...your husband should be beaming!

Dee
Member Elite

since 2000-08-19

Posts 2330
Queensland, Australia

3 posted 2002-04-07 07:30 PM

Sue, very touching. It is something many of us would like to forget but you have seen the need to tell the story. Thank you.

Dee

I wish you every happiness and may you always have the best of the good things in life. a brand

strbbux
Member Elite

since 2001-12-19

Posts 3859

4 posted 2002-04-07 08:35 PM

This is so wonderful Sue. I am so fortunate to have never had this. But I know women who have and you have done well with this poem. floria

Floria

"Alas for those that never sing,
But die with all their music in them"
(Oliver Wendell Holmes)

BluesSerenade
Member Patricius

since 2001-10-23

Posts 10549
By the Seaside

5 posted 2002-04-07 08:43 PM

The syndrome you speak of is sadly misunderstood to both the woman who suffers and those that surround her. Pity the poor man who struggles to make sense of it.
I think child rearing is a life long test of our endurance and our love.

Mistletoe Angel

Member Empyrean

since 2000-12-17

Posts 32816
Portland, Oregon

6 posted 2002-04-07 09:03 PM

(sad sigh) Though I am young to have a family yet and have never related to this experience yet, I can understand this kind of sorrow so very much, for I too would be heartbroken if my future wife was unhappy for all I want is to marry the girl of my dreams and make her as happy as can be and comfort her when she is sad! (BIG HUGGGGSSSSS) My heart goes out to you and your husband, sweet friend, my thughts and prayers are with you, we all love you so much! You have such a beautiful heart, sweet Sue, thank you for sharing!

May love and light always shine upon you!

Love,
Noah Eaton

Trillium

Member Patricius

since 2001-03-09

Posts 12098
Idaho, USA

7 posted 2002-04-08 07:08 PM

Sue: This must have been a hard poem to write. It bares your own pain as well as that you feel for others. Good for you!! These things are hard for all of us to understand.

Betty Lou Hebert

Bridget Shenachie
Senior Member

since 2002-01-23

Posts 1056
Kansas USA

8 posted 2002-04-08 07:17 PM

Wow! Excellent writing. You pick some tough subjects and develop them to perfection! I am so glad that you got past this experience.

Shenachie

thepoeticplumber
Member

since 2001-05-15

Posts 185

9 posted 2002-04-14 06:02 PM

I'm sorry you had to deal with this subject Sue. It must have been so extremely hard for both of you. A very descriptive poem on a hard subject. Your Friend Always, Roger

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