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Soleil Noir Senior Member
since 2001-12-19
Posts 688USA |
Privacy “The saint and poet seek privacy to ends the most public and universal.” Emerson, “Culture”, The Conduct of Life (1860) “The hedge between keeps friendship green.” German Proverb. *** How do you feel about privacy? Do you believe it is right to go through another’s desk at work? At home? Do you believe a husband should know everything about his wife? Vice versa? Do you go through your husband’s wallet if he does nothing suspicious? Do you inspect his desk and personal files? Husbands? Do you rummage through your wife’s purse? Her closet? Drawers? *** Respect “If you have some respect for people as they are, you can be more effective in helping them to become better than they are.” John W. Gardner, No Easy Victories (1968) “Without feelings of respect, what is there to distinguish men from beasts?” Confucius, Analects, 6th C., B.C. What are your thoughts on respect? Do you want to be treated as you treat others? *** I believe respect and privacy go hand in hand, much as the way respect and tolerance are upheld here at Passions. But what happens when these two factions are adhered by one in a marriage, and not by the other? How do you handle situations such as this? [This message has been edited by Soleil Noir (07-15-2003 09:54 AM).] |
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serenity blaze Member Empyrean
since 2000-02-02
Posts 27738 |
I used my husband's laptop for two years and never once peeked at his mail. (I simply didn't WANT to know.) |
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Janet Marie Member Laureate
since 2000-01-22
Posts 18554 |
The kind of invasion of privacy you are talking about comes from the other person needing to have control... this kind of person feels they have to know everything so that they can be in control of all thats going on...they dont have trust or respect for anything that goes against what they want. They are possessive and feel they are entitled to know every breath and thought the other person has... no respect for personal space, for independance...usually they are very insecure in themselves and want to make the other person feel the same way. Without respect and trust...love is just another four letter word. |
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littlewing Member Rara Avis
since 2003-03-02
Posts 9655New York |
I would never - have never looked except one thing I did do was I have this girlfriend who is obsessive-compulsive and her house was like toothbrush clean no matter when I stopped over - NO MATTER WHAT - I mean I could put my makeup on in her microwave - so I went into the bathroom and ran my fingers on the top the of window pane figuring hehe this will be dusty and damn you know it was clean a s a whistle *backing away slowly and looking for a feather duster* |
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Moonlight Romeo 
since 2001-09-10
Posts 982The heart of you |
Well said Janet Marie. I agree totally. Thank you. Peace is the only battle worth waging. |
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Brad_Smith Member
since 2004-01-09
Posts 70Dallas, Texas |
yes yall all speak the truth. I reaped the reprecussions of such a violation of trust. not pretty not easy to mend. |
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Klassy Lassy Member Elite
since 2005-06-28
Posts 2187Oregon |
I respect another's privacy. Truth will surface, and I have learned that it is not always easy to digest...perhaps that is why we learn to take it with a grain of salt? LOL Going through personal effects of a loved one is not my style. Too much familiarity breeds comtempt, so the old saying goes...especially if you don't respect someone's space. ~ Karen ~ |
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Huan Yi Member Ascendant
since 2004-10-12
Posts 6688Waukegan |
Question: what is it that is so important that it should/must be kept private particularly against a man/woman and woman/man in marriage? |
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Brad Member Ascendant
since 1999-08-20
Posts 5705Jejudo, South Korea |
Answer: Without secrets, there is no trust. |
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Huan Yi Member Ascendant
since 2004-10-12
Posts 6688Waukegan |
Rejoinder: “Life is like a box of chocolates” and “Love is never having to say you’re sorry.” |
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Juju Member Elite
since 2003-12-29
Posts 3429In your dreams |
"with out secrets there is no trust..." hmm... Unless you don't do anything that there would need to be a secret. It is always sad to hear such things, because sometimes it is true, but life is so complicated that relationships are defined by us. We choose how to have them and we make the choices. Some how we end up making everything hurtful. I try to make as simple relationships as possable with friends, because it seems that everyone is happier when I don't hurt them and make things complicated. Funny how hard it is not to hurt others when it is easier to do what you want. -Juju -<>-~-<>-~-<>- |
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