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The Myth: Real Men Don't Cry
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The Myth: Real Men Don't Cry |
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Larry C
since 2001-09-10
Posts 10286United States 
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The Myth: Real Men Don’t Cry By Larry Chadwick My heart is breaking because you’re gone, And I am using tears to heal my pain. Being alone isn’t the part that hurts, It’s that I won’t see you ever again. Time itself can’t make the ache go away, Which is why my tears must fall. Because it hurts to feel my loss, And missing you is worst of all. They say that real men don’t ever cry, But that is just an urban tale. It is meant to hide the truth, That real men know how to wail. So I am using my tears to cleanse my mind, And make space for love of another. But never will I leave my memories, Of when we were in love with each other. April 6, 2002 |
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Mistletoe Angel 
since 2000-12-17
Posts 32816Portland, Oregon |
 (big hugggssssssss) Oh Larry, I have no clue who ever came up with that myth that men shouldn't cry, but I for one cry all the time yet I am proud I do because I think all men should cry when they are hurt deeply for if we cage our emotions it only hurts us deeper and if we cry, others will open up to us and we can all help each other with compassion! (sigh) My heart goes out to you and your tears, sweet friend, I hope everything is alright, we all love you so much! You have such a beautiful heart, sweet Larry, thank you for sharing!  May love and light always shine upon you! Love, Noah Eaton |
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Larry C
since 2001-09-10
Posts 10286United States |
Noah, Sorry, no tears. I thought of the concept of tears cleansing our hearts from a story I heard at church and had to find a way to use it. But certainly concur that it is foolishness to suggest men shouldn't cry. Besides, I could never maintain that facade. And thank you friend.  |
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Madame Chipmunk Member Rara Avis
since 2001-12-05
Posts 8296Michigan |
Thanks for a beautiful poem, Larry... I know for certain that men DO cry. All the ones in my life, certainly have... I find it very touching when a man cries because it means that he's sensitive. My first husband used to cry at sad movies, more than I did.....my dad always cried at weddings and David cries when I am hurting. Both of my sons were also sensitive and cried when they needed to...... I think its wonderful when men feel masculine enough to cry without worrying about being judged harshly for it.... I really love the poem ~big teary hugs~ copyright2002 Lyra Nesius |
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Larry C
since 2001-09-10
Posts 10286United States |
Lyra, I cry for movies, songs, stories, love, funerals and yes it has caused criticism and no I don't care. Thank you always for your support. It seems there are too many tears in your life...but your courage continues to inspire me. Thank you so much. |
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rosepetals25
since 2000-05-31
Posts 3076PA |
Larry, I enjoyed. You speak the truth, hopefully all men will listen. Hugs, Tara "My heart is like an open book, for the whole world to read" |
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BluesSerenade Member Patricius
since 2001-10-23
Posts 10549By the Seaside |
Ok, I'm glad I read your reply to Noah~ Geeez, you had me worried for a minute! So I am using my tears to cleanse my mind, And make space for love of another. But never will I leave my memories, Of when we were in love with each other. Cleansing indeed....that verse really got to me! Have you ever read a poem and found yourself staring at your monitor...tilting your head from side to side...squinting, smiling, or trying your best not to cry? Sitting back in your chair, crossing over your arms, thinking about how to respond? Here's to your poem and your reply about maintaining facades~~~~~ You're good Larry!! |
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Midnitesun
since 2001-05-18
Posts 28647Gaia |
Very well written, cry baby.  Just kidding.  Tears are neither feminine nor masculine, they don't care about gender when they roll down the cheeks. And I always worry about people who cannot cry. My daughter rarely cries, but when she does, it is usually for someone else's pain, not her own. She didn't even cry when she broke her wrist..but I sure did. And I like to cry. It clears all the dust out of my eyes.  |
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Larry C
since 2001-09-10
Posts 10286United States |
Tara, They won't!  But that's their problem. And thanks. Lori, Boy could I picture that! Sorry...but I rarely hold back. And thank you for your candid response. Kacy, I have no idea what you are talking about. I never cry. And thank you friend. |
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2dalimit Member Elite
since 2000-02-08
Posts 2228Mississippi coast |
Good one. I..., Oh never mind.. Thanks Melton |
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Sunshine
Administrator
Member Empyrean
since 1999-06-25
Posts 63354Listening to every heart |
Thank you for debunking a myth that I learned for myself a few decades ago to not hold any water...I saw a real man cry...and it made him all the more human, and a little taller, in my eyes... |
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1slick_lady Member Ascendant
since 2000-12-22
Posts 6088standing on a shadow's lace |
"Time itself can’t make the ache go away, Which is why my tears must fall. Because it hurts to feel my loss, And missing you is worst of all." larry larry larry just so tender and touching...i agree with you "real" men do cry actually i think..."only the men that cry are real" this morning you have touched me...thank you !!! helen |
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nakdthoughts Member Laureate
since 2000-10-29
Posts 19200Between the Lines |
sighing...I don't know how anyone can hold tears back...they have their purpose *s M |
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Larry C
since 2001-09-10
Posts 10286United States |
Melton, Yup...I know! It's okay...thanks. Karilea, I'd love to be taller in your eyes. helen, helen helen...Thanks. Tons. M, Yup they do and I don't know either. Thanks. |
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Marge Tindal
since 1999-11-06
Posts 42384Florida's Foreverly Shores |
Larry~ Browsing the back pages of you ... *tears in shed* *Hugs* from my heart~ ~*Marge*~ ~*The pen of the poet never runs out of ink, as long as we breathe.*~ |
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Larry C
since 2001-09-10
Posts 10286United States |
Marge, Thanks for your help in finding healing for me in my own words. Bless you dear friend. |
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JamesMichael Member Empyrean
since 1999-11-16
Posts 33336Kapolei, Hawaii, USA |
Very nice Larry...James |
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bsquirrel
since 2000-01-03
Posts 7855 |
God bless, over an' over again. She said burn ... together. |
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NapalmsConstantlyConfused
since 2001-05-15
Posts 529 |
what midnitesun said. anyone who can't cry has some rather serious problems that they need to deal with. there is a time and place for everything, and if it's time to cry, then it just is  some things are too hard to be carried any other way. -Dave |
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passing shadows Member Empyrean
since 1999-08-26
Posts 45577displaced |
the truth... |
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