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For once and for all, how it really is. . .
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For once and for all, how it really is. . . |
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Sven
since 1999-11-23
Posts 14937East Lansing, MI USA 
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Who's to blame for what's gone on? Who's to blame for what's gone wrong? Who's to blame? Are you to blame for what's gone on? Are you to blame for what's gone wrong? Are you to blame for nights of anger and of pain When we had the same fight over and over again When there was not enough sun and too much rain And you met my words with anger and disdain Are you to blame? Am I to blame for what's gone on? Am I to blame for what's gone wrong? Am I to blame for days of screaming and abuse When there was no way to let my anger loose And all I could give to you was one more excuse Am I to blame? We're both to blame for what's gone on We're both to blame for what's gone wrong We're both to blame Instead of hurling fists and hurling words Screaming and shouting just to be heard We should have known it was all absurd We're both to blame This isn't the way that I wanted it to end This isn't the way that you wanted it to end Can we stop being enemies and at least be friends? You think that you're the only one paying the price That all I've been to you is cold as ice But for all that you're paying, I'm paying twice But I'm not here to aruge, and I'm not here to fight I'm just here to say with the words that I write That I'm sorry that we're going through this plight It's not what I asked for when I started this life It's not what I asked for, this anger and strife It's not what I asked for, the loss of a wife But it's the only way to end this hurt And I'll understand if to me you're curt And I'll understand if you think I'm dirt But know that you've always been my friend And so you shall be. . . right until the end. . . --------------------------------------------------------------------------- To the world, you may only be one person. But to one person, you may be the world. |
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JLR Senior Member
since 2001-02-04
Posts 1785 |
I, too, have played the blame game. Only recently did it occur to me that even if I were to 'win' the game...I still lost the love. |
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JamesMichael Member Empyrean
since 1999-11-16
Posts 33336Kapolei, Hawaii, USA |
You have reminded me of a relationship long, long ago...She wanted to place all the blame on me and in retrospect I am willing to take most of the blame...I was not a good person...I remember thinking to myself I didn't want to lose her yet by my actions I had done everything to drive her away and nothing to keep her...James |
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Celeste Senior Member
since 2000-11-11
Posts 597 |
 Most of the time I think you're right. It is both, at fault. And sometimes it's really just that one person. I imagine I'll be sneaking in now and then. Just because I'm |
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ATelamon Member
since 2001-02-06
Posts 328Purgatory, Last Staircase, Up |
Well said echoing the aphorism "it takes two to tango" or is that an addage. You said it very well. When two are involved two have traveled the road. The responsiblity for good or bad is always shared. excellent piece My Complimets AT "The days are razors. They slice me in to pieces unidentifiable, unsuitable for human viewing." |
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inot2B Member Elite
since 2000-09-18
Posts 2205Arkansas |
Life is the pits when one loves and the other hates. |
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Sunshine
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Member Empyrean
since 1999-06-25
Posts 63354Listening to every heart |
You built a great sound...the argument, the crescendo...the climax, and the peaceful withdrawal to the facts of loss...absence...yet maintaining overall...respect for what was... well done Sven |
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Dennis Member
since 2001-02-19
Posts 235Indiana |
I can sure relate to these words. Seems like a lot going on and I've been reading a lot of emotion today while taking the chance at having the computer to myself. Tell me something, if the wife in question is also a poet, maybe she should have the chance at a rebuttal. After all, this is just one side of the coin. Sure would be interesting, In either case I wish (if it is real) the best for the couple in question, it's never easy...... Dennis [This message has been edited by Dennis (edited 03-04-2001).] |
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catalinamoon
since 2000-06-03
Posts 9543The Shores of Alone |
It is never what we asked for, is it? You portrayed a stormy relationship to perfection. And I agree with you, if you have loved someone once, there should always be a friendship. Its not always possible, but to me it is always the goal. Excellent story told. Sandra |
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Marsha
since 2000-07-10
Posts 7423Maidstone Kent England |
AD dear heart, this is soooooooo true, sometimes you can't even have that, sometimes it's wiser just to walk. I wish I could listen always to good advice. I might be able to see the plight and the solution, but..... and there is the problem! Never mind this is an utterly powerful piece you've written here. I could see the whole of this, it is a clear and amazing presentation of a scene. Wonderful work dear heart, real wonderful  Take care love as always Bubbles  And remember where I am if you need me Take back the hope you gave,- I claim Only a memory of the same Robert Browning |
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ParisGrl Senior Member
since 2000-06-01
Posts 610 |
John, I can definitely feel your pain on this one. Who is to blame for love gone wrong? Both? or just one person? Sadly, i think i will never know. This is very heartfelt and moving, keep writing......it helps. Take care, Laura |
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Voiceless Senior Member
since 2001-02-19
Posts 686Under the stars upon the wind |
sadly blame is usually given to the other person involved... This is neat and I greatly enjoy the way it was written it made it smooth and didn't take away from what you were saying.. ~*Peachy Be*~ |
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Greeneyes 
since 2000-09-09
Posts 9903In Your Poetic Mind |
ohhh dear friend, it's hard to "see" straight when love goes wrong, I feel for you on this...I know we have all been there, and have never really gotten all the answers we look for...big HUGS to you....  Greeneyes~ *** "Within you I lose myself Without you I find myself Wanting to be lost again." -Unknown |
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Isis Member Ascendant
since 1999-09-06
Posts 6296Sunny Queensland |
Why do we need blame at all? It would be simple if people focused on recovering etc, than blaming each other. Having the finger pointed it is so destroying, wearying.. You portrayed the feelings of hurt and dismany here perfectly hon.. Well done. Isis *War produces one thing - Cemetaries. And in cemetaries there are no enemies!* ~Isis~~Sovereign of the Spirit. |
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Temptress
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Member Rara Avis
since 1999-06-15
Posts 7136Mobile, AL |
 There is frustration in this one, and I think you've communicated it well here.  |
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Moon Dust
since 1999-06-11
Posts 2177Skelmersdale, UK |
"But know that you've always been my friend And so you shall be. . . right until the end. . ." Loved this, esspecsialy the end Don't ever give in, if you do you've lost everything you've ever had and everything you hope to gain, but if you carry on your already winning. |
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Sven
since 1999-11-23
Posts 14937East Lansing, MI USA |
Thanks to everyone for replying. . . I'd like you all to know that this poem isn't about placing blame. . . I in no way blame anyone (except perhaps myself) for what's happened. . . I've come to a few realizations, and a few conclusions. . . nothing can take back what I've done or said. . . and for that I'm sorry. . . all I can do now is try to move ahead. . . This wasn't intended to only present one side of the coin, even though it may have appeared that way. . . it was intended to be a portrait of my feelings and nothing more. . . This wasn't intended to hurt anyone. . . and I'm not asking for sympathy. . . I just needed to get all of this out. . . Thank you all again my friends. . . I'm glad that you've all taken the time. . . --------------------------------------------------------------------- To the world, you may only be one person. But to one person, you may be the world. |
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Aimster Member Elite
since 2000-02-19
Posts 4297Charlotte, NC |
John- sorry im so late to respond to this. you have penned an excellent poem here. i can feel your pain and fustration... and in my honest opinion...sometimes love that goes wrong is neither person's fault...sometimes things just aren't meant to be...and sometimes its both people's fault. i don't believe in blaming either... takes two to make something go right and it takes two to make it go wrong...so many different sides/angles when it comes to love--the most complex emotion known to man! wonderful poem...really enjoyed this! take care amy "A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart & can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words." |
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Kethry Member Rara Avis
since 2000-07-29
Posts 9082Victoria Australia |
Sven, difficult questions, with no easy and sometimes no answers. *HuGS* Keth Those of us who refuse to risk and grow get swallowed up by life. Patty Hansen. |
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Mother_Earth Senior Member
since 2000-11-20
Posts 13701/2 year Texas & 1/2 year Michigan |
Sven, it is so hard to take back what was let out. Sometimes words hurt far more than fist. The bruise will go away, but some how the words stay and fester. And as one of PIP's poets said, it sometimes better to let love go and say good bye. You put a lot of your soul into this and I hope you keep the door open as friend. It may take awhile as the healing goes on. Hugs, ME |
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bslicker
since 2000-12-04
Posts 2321state of mind |
Ditto on your write here Sven. I myself just writing my thoughts also. Bernie Bernie Slicker (aka also: justsomeofme) |
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walker Member Elite
since 2001-02-11
Posts 2240Florida |
When there is an accident, we look for someone at fault, same goes for relationships, but unfortunaltely,it doesn't solve the problems because it comes after it. But we can become better persons if we accept some of the blame(that's the hard part).Some people never accept any blame,thus they never learn from their mistakes. I agree it takes two to tango, even if is not 50/50. Well expressed. A quarter of a century must pass, for the writer to understand what and why he writes. |
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