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sea_of_okc
Senior Member

since 1999-06-15

Posts 568
Oklahoma City, OK, USA

0 posted 2000-06-12 04:32 PM

How can we be as one
When you hide yourself from me?
The bond is slowly breaking
But you are too blind to see

Was I asking too much
All your feelings to share?
Are you withholding them all
Or are they just plain not there?

Our needs are so different
Can't even find common ground
I tried to explain it
You did not hear a sound

You are deaf to my needs
Just don't seem to understand
And the reason I'm leaving
I don't believe you ever can

How can we be happy
When we are living a lie?
I do not fault or blame you
But I have to say good-bye

Somewhere out there is one
That was made to be with me
When we get together
We will unite perfectly

Steven Seaman
My poems are my hopes, my fantasies and my dreams
Created with emotion, imagination and thought
Read my words you will know my heart
Look in my eyes you can see my soul

JamesMichael
Member Empyrean

since 1999-11-16

Posts 33336
Kapolei, Hawaii, USA

1 posted 2000-06-12 04:46 PM

I've been thinking along the same lines lately...I think sometimes we get close to soomeone and perhaps we would have been better off to remain only friends...the commitment is not really there for anything more. "We will unite perfectly." I don't know exactly what this entails but I believe that I will be accepted and appreciated, our personalities and beliefs will be a good fit. James

amazon_lover
Member

since 2000-04-09

Posts 491
Dublin,Ireland

2 posted 2000-06-12 04:46 PM

Hi Sea,
That was sad but you showed strength. Sometimes we can sacrifice something to strike a common ground and it should be mutual. If its impossible its very difficult to carry on with a relationship and finally nothing seems to be in place..just wait for it may find you..

Sincerely
A_L

amazon_lover
Member

since 2000-04-09

Posts 491
Dublin,Ireland

3 posted 2000-06-12 04:48 PM

Hi Sea,
That was sad but you showed strength. Sometimes we can sacrifice something to strike a common ground and it should be mutual. If its impossible its very difficult to carry on with a relationship and finally nothing seems to be in place..just wait for it may find you..

Sincerely
A_L

amazon_lover
Member

since 2000-04-09

Posts 491
Dublin,Ireland

4 posted 2000-06-12 04:48 PM

Hi Sea,
That was sad but you showed strength. Sometimes we can sacrifice something to strike a common ground and it should be mutual. If its impossible its very difficult to carry on with a relationship and finally nothing seems to be in place..just wait for it may find you..

Sincerely
A_L

amazon_lover
Member

since 2000-04-09

Posts 491
Dublin,Ireland

5 posted 2000-06-12 04:53 PM

oops ! some trouble with the browser. Kindly excuse for this mistake.

Thanks
A_L

Butterflies_dont_cry
Member Elite

since 2000-03-06

Posts 3733
Michigan

6 posted 2000-06-12 04:58 PM

Sea~ Wonderful insight to know that the time has come for goodbye...while others simply keep living it because it's easier than change. A very deep subject and thought, one that most of us have to walk with at some point in our lives...but which path we take remains to be seen. Good luck in your walk...thank you for sharing this.

Corazon
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since 2000-02-02

Posts 1209

7 posted 2000-06-12 05:08 PM

wow, did you just leave *me* or what? are you my husband....lol....so many different worlds out there...so many things the same, great writing

you hit this perfect

JulieAnn
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since 2000-06-12

Posts 754
Earth 3rd Rock from the sun!!

8 posted 2000-06-12 05:09 PM

My life has streamed from the ink in your pen
it is nice to know I am not the only one going through this....someone out there is also feeling the same pain.....Thank you for your insight!! Julie

poetFemmeFatale
Member Elite

since 1999-07-25

Posts 2646
Arkansas

9 posted 2000-06-12 07:48 PM

Sheesh, you knew just what to write about, huh?

This is really enlightening, and I even gained some insight from the wonderful replies too! *sigh* It's a shame there's a whole group of us out there in this same predicament. Someone said something though that hit me right in the heart. We do tend to stay where we are, because it's so much easier than change. *sigh again* I've been guilty of that. Thank you so much for this...it has really helped. Much love, Gen

"Fantasies enrich our lives to the fullest, but true satisfaction comes from creating your own story in the real world! Live out your fantasies & make a storybook with beautiful pictures for the world to enjoy! -poetFemme

Janet Marie
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since 2000-01-22

Posts 18554

10 posted 2000-06-12 11:33 PM

how many times have i wrote this poem...
i know, I know ...you know too
wish we didnt know ...
well expressed Steve-gator...
sorry you went thru it, but it looks
like ya learned from it
later-wise-gator
jm

And it's good that I'm not angry,
I just need to get over,
I'm not angry, anymore
Cry when you cry,
run when you run,
love when you love,
represent the ashes
that you leave behind
~MB20~

"What the caterpillar calls the end ...
The world calls a butterfly"
~Lao Tze Tao~
~Butterflies are meant to be free~

Nan

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Member Seraphic

since 1999-05-20

Posts 21191
Cape Cod Massachusetts USA

11 posted 2000-06-14 07:51 PM

I can really relate to this one sea... Nice work, as usual...btw... Have I mentioned that it's nice to see you again???..

Kit McCallum

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Member Laureate

since 2000-04-30

Posts 14774
Ontario, Canada

12 posted 2000-06-15 08:29 AM

Wonderful expression and flow within the poem Sea! What seems to start as common ground sometimes is not enough to hold us together ... beautifully expressed!

Best wishes,
/Kit

Cerenity
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since 2000-02-16

Posts 2637
Escondido-California

13 posted 2000-06-16 08:44 AM

Hi sea-of-okc,

WOW you are in my head this morning infact these thoughts pleage me every day, I wonder just how distant two can get living in the same space. I am always told try, fight for it, you don't know what your loosing until its gone, ect. but the sad truth is that I will not be loosing anything because there is nothing there. You get very trierd of being the only one giving out the love. Thank you for sharing this.

Love, Cerenity

sea_of_okc
Senior Member

since 1999-06-15

Posts 568
Oklahoma City, OK, USA

14 posted 2000-06-16 09:18 AM

James - yes sometimes we do that out of loneliness or whatever. "unite perfectly" to me is finding someone whose needs and desires in a relationship are the same as yours, when two people love each other equally amazing things can happen

AL - true compromising is the 1st thing one should try but when you are so different sometimes that middle ground is just too distant from either of you to work

Julie - thank you, there are many many people in this situation, you are never alone

hope things work out for you

Femme - I stayed for YEARS b/c it was easier (so I thought at the time) than leaving...
In retrospect I shoulda left long before

JM - Yes, I know you know and I know too. But I will never again know because if and when I commit again it will be clear up front what my needs and expectations are and i refuse to ever again "settle" for 'close enough'.

Nan - It is unfortunate that so many of us relate to this

And thank you it is nice to be back and see you and my other friends (family) as well

Kit - thank you

Cerenity - Well I hope everything turns out okay. It is so sad to me that 'givers' seem to always end up with 'takers'... I think it is b/c those of us who are 'givers' are not as aggressive in our pursuit of another so the 'takers' (who seem to always be on the prowl for a 'giver' to 'use up') snatch us up before we can find one another

Mostly our own fault for allowing it. Now get two 'givers' together... that is something I want very much to experience

SEA

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Member Seraphic

since 2000-01-18

Posts 22676
with you

15 posted 2000-06-16 09:34 AM

Sea_of_okc~ Well, from one SEA to another, I can so relate.... it's ironic that so many of us here understand these feelings.....

* here is a little one I wrote while going through it*

Lonely tears
fall from my eyes
I thought I could
but I can't disguise

Hide the pain
and hurt that I feel
I'm still hoping
your love is real

I can't help to wonder
where your love lies
'cause I can't see it
in your eyes.
(Jan/1992)
-SEA-

I hope your heart heals soon.... It's really hard to leave but you will find the "right" one.

-SEA

ethome
Member Patricius

since 2000-05-14

Posts 11858
New Brunswick Canada

16 posted 2000-06-16 08:43 PM

There is always someone out there. Just don't push I always say, just let it happen. Lots of strength in this poem. Words that need to be said......

Lone Wolf
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since 2000-03-16

Posts 5842
Lansing, MI USA

17 posted 2000-06-16 08:49 PM

Sea,

This was great. I can almost see your thought process here. It is always hard to make such a decision and actually see it through. I hope that all works out for you. Wonderful writing.

Lone Wolf

Friends are friend forever if the Lord's the Lord of them and a friend will not say never cause the welcome will not end.
--Michael W. Smith

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