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RosePetal![]() ![]()
since 2001-08-26
Posts 2985South Florida ![]() |
It may be halloween, but I feel like a witch for real. I broke up with my boyfriend today (halloween morning) and all he kept saying is WHY ARE YOU DOING THIS TO ME? I tried to give him my reasons and he began to cry and I felt so bad that I was the reason why he was crying. Usually I am the one getting dumped so I know how bad it hurts and it hurt me to do this to him but I have to do whats right for me. He kept saying how much he loves me and can't live without me....I felt like a mean witch at that moment. Breaking up really is hard to do, especially when you still have feelings for the person. I still want to be friends w/ him but he says he can't be friends with me, he wants all or nothing. : ( I guess he's getting nothing then. |
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Poet deVine
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Member Seraphic
since 1999-05-26
Posts 22612Hurricane Alley |
You must have had a good reason or you wouldn't have done this..so believe in yourself and your decisions. And don't be hard on yourself - you have to follow your heart. |
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Sunshine
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Member Empyrean
since 1999-06-25
Posts 63354Listening to every heart |
There must have been a good reason, and his emotional outpouring is making you re-examine them. Are they still valid? Then you did the right thing! |
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doreen peri Member Elite
since 1999-05-25
Posts 3812Virginia |
it is a sign of great maturity to remain friends.... i'm determined to reach that level of maturity because to have loved is a true gift and to lose a person out of your life just because the love affair is over, is really a great loss to both people... when one person's feelings change, for whatever reason, it's not easy for the other, but life is about change but NO, you shouldn't feel badly to have to move on... those who stay together because they don't want to hurt the other's feelings are the ones who really lose out because if a relationship grows and changes to a point that it's not the right one for you, staying together is really just wasting time i'm rambling here... sorry... geesh anyway, he'll get over it and you will move on and both of you will love again... each love is different and precious and one day, he'll forgive you and survive pat yourself on the back... it's not easy on either side, but ya gotta do what ya gotta do |
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The Lady of Shallot Senior Member
since 2001-10-03
Posts 818USA |
I feel for you I really do. I lost a friend once, because he loved me and couldn't be "just a friend" It was sad. Wanting the friendship so much, I didn't see his side, but now of course I do. If he had not truly loved me, we would still be friends but he couldn't pretend and I respect him for that to this day as hard as it is for me. -befriend yourself and you will never be alone- |
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serenity blaze Member Empyrean
since 2000-02-02
Posts 27738 |
As a witch, should I resent the negative implication here? Smile here, sweetie, I'm just kidding. Although it may have been kinder to turn him into a toad.... ![]() |
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RosePetal![]() ![]()
since 2001-08-26
Posts 2985South Florida |
Hello Friends, Thank you for the advice/replies. I think he and I will be friends, but it won't be anytime soon. ((hugs)) love, RP |
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catalinamoon![]()
since 2000-06-03
Posts 9543The Shores of Alone |
Hi, just a quick add on to the good points already made. If you are sure he is not right for you, then you gotta do it, and you did. I find myself on the other side of this fence. He claims that to stay friends is fine, but we cannot be a "couple". I endured this last year, just being a friend, always there when he needed someone. Then we reunited, and he again, tossed the same thing at me a week later. So just be sure, if you don't think he is right for you, and I guess you can have no regrets. Though I find myself wishing I could turn HIM into a toad. LOL to Serenity. Good luck, and I hope the right one comes to you and you appreciate eachother totally. Sandra |
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Mistletoe Angel![]() ![]() ![]()
since 2000-12-17
Posts 32816Portland, Oregon |
![]() (big hugggssssssss) Oh Joanna, never say that, for if your heart felt it was wrong to be with him, then you did the right thing! (sigh) Do whatever makes your heart happy, for you are a very loving person, you are no witch, you're a sweet angel! (kiss on cheek) Your beautiful heart will find all the happiness and love you deserve, I promise!!! (kiss on cheek) We all love you so much, sweet friend! You have such a beautiful heart, sweet Joanna, thank you for sharing! May love and light always shine upon you! Love, Noah Eaton |
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Alyssa![]() ![]() ![]() ![]()
since 2001-05-30
Posts 385IM ENGAGED!!!!! |
hey i got a question... whyd u break up with him if you still had feelings for him? i dont quite understand..i know it aint in my postioin to ask this but i feel like some people know and i wanna be filled in and get all the gossip! LOL I LuV 2 fReAk out saLEpeEpZ. ThEy AsK me If tHey CaN heLp Me, & I sAy,'HaVe U gOT NEthINg Id like?'TheN thEy aSk mE wuT sIZe I sAy "X-tr MedIuM" |
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lizzyluv Junior Member
since 2001-12-27
Posts 46nh, usa. we suck. |
not to make it worse, but as a witch, i gotta speak up and take offense. you can feel like an ogress, fine, but a witch is a bit touchy. moving on, i'm sorry you feel bad, if it was so hard, why'd you do it? if you still love him, stay. "everyone is broken by something they love and worship"- Francesca Lia Block |
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serenity blaze Member Empyrean
since 2000-02-02
Posts 27738 |
lizzy m'luv, it gets far worse than this. E mail me if you need to get it off of you chest! Blessed be and spirit's keep. |
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RosePetal![]() ![]()
since 2001-08-26
Posts 2985South Florida |
whoa i posted this a while ago, I was surprised to see it again. Well, I broke up with him because I knew he wasnt the one for me. He had two sides to him, I fell in love with the person he pretended to be. Then he began to change and show his true colors later on and I was already in love with the side of him that he had shown me... So I couldnt bare to be with someone who only treated me good half the times. Its all or nothing. Currently, I'm over him, single and lovin it. I know you guys don't get to hear his side of the story, but his side really isnt valid since he is in jail now for a crime he committed. Thats where he deserves to be. p.s. I called myself a witch 'cuz it was halloween when i posted this : ) |
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serenity blaze Member Empyrean
since 2000-02-02
Posts 27738 |
Rose, I know...I thought it was cute... no problem with ME...I have been called much, much worse! rofl...happy new year! |
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RosePetal![]() ![]()
since 2001-08-26
Posts 2985South Florida |
Happy new year to you too Serenity! : ) have fun, be safe, dont do anything I WOULD do! LOL j/k |
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