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curiouse Member
since 2006-03-21
Posts 277england |
o.k so i have wrote a few poems about my situation but i now don't want to give coded messages i'm just gonna say it straight out and please help me... i used to be the centre of the attention and my frinds really liked it . everyone knew that i was a down to earth and really fun. but now i think my friends are getting bored of me or they are taking advantage of me. it's just that i don't think that a couple of my friends are reliable. i know that they now always point out my faults and they don't treat me specialy like they did before. and it's all fine and well saying that i should not hang with them anymore but the thing is that they are really good people but don't notice me and i don't think they like me as much.and sometimes forget i'm even there or go off without me. the thing is that i go to school with them and have to be around them all the time. it's not easy to say "right you do not appreciate me", i'll go find other people to hang with. because there is no one like them and they'll only end up hating me, i have to be with them for another 2 years so i really want to sort it out before it gets out of hand.i'm afraid that one day they might just blurt out that they don't want to be my friend which would be devastating. oh, i sound desperate which is not me at all.but i can't handle this.it's getting really horrible because i always have to keep my feelings inside which only makes it worse. please help, curiouse |
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Local Rebel Member Ascendant
since 1999-12-21
Posts 5767Southern Abstentia |
Have you ever read 'The Velveteen Rabbit'? |
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curiouse Member
since 2006-03-21
Posts 277england |
no...i havn't read the velveteen rabbit....please enlighten me, curiouse |
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Local Rebel Member Ascendant
since 1999-12-21
Posts 5767Southern Abstentia |
Well, I wouldn't want to spoil the ending -- so.. you can read it here free online; http://digital.library.upenn.edu/women/williams/rabbit/rabbit.html |
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curiouse Member
since 2006-03-21
Posts 277england |
sorry, but i didn't get it, i'm a little thick, that was magis this reality, thanx though, Curiouse |
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Local Rebel Member Ascendant
since 1999-12-21
Posts 5767Southern Abstentia |
I'm glad you read it -- did you like the story? Real bunnies can hop away. We can't control them like a toy. If we want people to be real though -- we have to love them even when their fur is rubbed off. It's also a story about transitions -- something that happens to us over and over again -- if we're lucky -- how boring it would be to stay in the nursery all our lives. |
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nakdthoughts Member Laureate
since 2000-10-29
Posts 19200Between the Lines |
"used to be the centre of the attention and my frinds really liked it . everyone knew that i was a down to earth and really fun. but now i think my friends are getting bored of me or they are taking advantage of me" Maybe some of your friends would like to take turns and be the center of attention too. Try to analyze why you were the center or thought you were...are you funny and they enjoy laughing with you...or are they laughing at you and you don't realize it? Do you make them laugh by picking on other people and maybe they have had enough of it.. Do you try to be funny to be included..instead of just being who you are? Like I responded to one of your other poems, if you are constantly unhappy with this group of "friends" then it is time to find and make new ones... and don't worry about what they say. "Friends" don't make you feel uncomfortable...they are there to support you and help you get through the tough times and share in the good ones. Don't try to be so popular because sometimes one good friend is better than many who aren't "real" friends but like you said "make you feel used". M |
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curiouse Member
since 2006-03-21
Posts 277england |
thankyou so much local rebel i get it now.and thanyou for your kind nature. and nakdthoughts i get what you mean but the truth of the matter is that it's not simple to realize that thier not proper friends and to find someone else because i know in the future i will find other people who are TRUE friends but right now this is the only choice i have and i have to make it work because then it will work FOR me not AGAINST me and with both' of your advice i think i will. local rebel you did put things into prespective so thanx and thnkyou sooo much nakdthought because you have told me to be myself and not try to be so popular you did hit the nail on the head just sometimes things can't be straightforward which is something i hate. thanyou, curiouse [This message has been edited by curiouse (03-28-2006 10:42 AM).] |
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Mysteria 
since 2001-03-07
Posts 18328British Columbia, Canada |
That was a fantastic way to explain the situation to you by Local Rebel, and he is right. (I could just squeeze his bunny fur for the caring way he presented this to you.) Unfortunately no matter how we try in life to control or change someone the only person we have a right to do that too, with even some success is ourselves.  However, I remember in school feeling the same way actually, I was really popular, and Head Cheerleader, but once I decided to drop cheerleading for academics, I lost a lot of "friends," or did I? See? You have to mean more than someone "neat" to hand around. Sometimes growing up we pay a terrible price to be popular. Good luck, and I hope you pick your friends well, seems you would be a good one to have. I would just accept them for who they are if they are the ones you wish to keep company with, or if they make you "feel" inferior, unwanted, or bad, find some friends that don't make you feel sad. Friendship shouldn't hurt. Do me a favor though? Don't keep feelings bottled up, if something is eating you, share them - you never have to apologize for how you feel, as feelings just are, and need no explaination or apology. |
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Juju Member Elite
since 2003-12-29
Posts 3429In your dreams |
Get other friends, spred out your time. Sometimes they forget what a fun person you are until they are gone. If you start spending time with others thye will be nicere -Juju -<>-~-<>-~-<>- |
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