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ecrivan
Member Elite

since 2001-12-10

Posts 3923
my own state

0 posted 2005-05-30 01:29 AM

Say no when you need your day
if others use you any old way
or even if you need a break
from the tempo created
through someone's take...

Feel disadvantaged
verbally abused
after a generous donation
of time and money
one's self should come first
rather than just to please
no reason to constantly appease.

The user sees, he'll have his way
make you fell guilt if you don't pay
after a donation of time and money
as if he'd expect constant generosity
while he has it good from his family

Doesn't mean it has to involve you
you're not responsible
to tie his shoes
say no if others use you endlessly
there's a greater need
to look after yourself anyway...
call it a limit to being unrightly used
how earnest friendships are squeezed
then bruised...

[This message has been edited by ecrivan (05-30-2005 03:07 PM).]

nakdthoughts
Member Laureate

since 2000-10-29

Posts 19200
Between the Lines

1 posted 2005-05-30 09:05 AM

So true, Martin....but some of us have it in us to believe that we are truly needed and that there is more good in people than bad. Takes a lot of using before we realize we are being taken for granted...or it takes being "down and out" to realize who your friends really are.

M

Enchantress
Member Empyrean

since 2001-08-14

Posts 35113
Canada eh.

2 posted 2005-05-30 09:08 AM

Well said Martin..
Good to read you again!
hugs~Nancy

~Somewhere in my heart I'm always
dancing with you in the summer rain~

ecrivan
Member Elite

since 2001-12-10

Posts 3923
my own state

3 posted 2005-05-30 03:08 PM

takes a lot of using here too....

passing shadows
Member Empyrean

since 1999-08-26

Posts 45577
displaced

4 posted 2005-05-30 07:00 PM

there are times when we all need to say no...there's nothing wrong with being selfish from time to time...

good write Martin, one that should be read and remembered

youcan'tseeme
Member

since 2004-01-30

Posts 88

5 posted 2005-05-30 10:58 PM

very nice write

iliana
Member Patricius

since 2003-12-05

Posts 13434
USA

6 posted 2005-05-30 11:54 PM

Martin....it took me most of my life to learn this the hard way....you are so right! I'm heeding your advice now and much happier.

.....jo

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