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Poet deVine
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Member Seraphic
since 1999-05-26
Posts 22612Hurricane Alley |
wanting to be alone? Why do people freak out when I say 'I just want to be left alone'? |
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wandering glider Senior Member
since 2001-04-04
Posts 501aloft |
Fear probably, their own fear of being alone, transfered to you. Or, being rejected. Who likes being rejected? my 2 c \\ |
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JLR Senior Member
since 2001-02-04
Posts 1785 |
I have a friend who calls me Greta because I say that I want to be alone. Sometimes I wonder which one of us doesn't understand. (And I know it's a little of both). I'm actually a very social person but I get so little time truly to myself...I grab it everytime I do, selfishly of not. And the truth is, I enjoy my own company. Good question! [This message has been edited by JLR (edited 07-31-2001).] |
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Ron
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Member Rara Avis
since 1999-05-19
Posts 8669Michigan, US |
I run into that occasionally, but not as often as one might expect. I guess, over the course of a lifetime, I've finally got my family trained and my friends are now enough like me to understand that very real need. Unfortunately, understanding it is only the first step towards getting them to actually respect it.  Some people, though, confuse being alone with loneliness. They are NOT the same thing. |
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Elizabeth
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Member Ascendant
since 1999-06-07
Posts 6871Minnesota |
They think it's because you're upset when you say it, and they want to 'be there' for you! |
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Temptress
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Member Rara Avis
since 1999-06-15
Posts 7136Mobile, AL |
Hmm..I understand this. I have no problem with people feeling this way as long as they are able to indentify when they might not want to be left alone any longer. When they actually need contact, I worry that they would deny themselves that contact. Laters! |
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Dopey Dope
Moderator
Member Patricius
since 2000-08-30
Posts 11132San Juan, Puerto Rico |
I usually don't have to tell people I want to be alone.........people can't find me when I want to be alone.....I hide. |
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Yu Lan Senior Member
since 2000-04-13
Posts 1462New Zealand |
Nah, nothing wrong with it, ther'd be something wrong if you were so dependant on ppl that you couldn't be alone, or didn't want to be alone.. just as long as you know why you want to be alone, then they just have to accept it.. Liz is right, they most likely reckon it is because you are upset.. perhaps if you explained to them a bit about why you need time alone sometimes, they wouldn't be so weird about it.. “One word can be magical. Imagine then, the effect of several words, together..” |
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serenity blaze Member Empyrean
since 2000-02-02
Posts 27738 |
smiling here...BECAUSE? I AM ALONE...after two weeks of rushing to make arrangements, order flowers, financial details, dry cleaning, refreshments for people, and ANSWERING THE DAMNED PHONE--I woke this morning and asked the boyfriend in a panic--"What do we have to do today? I forgot, I forgot, I forgot!!!" And he just took me by the shoulders and said, "Calm down, nothing, it's all over." And I burst into tears. So today, he took the kids off and brought me HOME...and now? I am blissfully ALONE...sipping Chivas, with my feet up and my beloved blue pages staring back at me. It's dark. It's cool, and it's QUIET. And, I will worry about the tropical storm tomorrow. (How's my baby, Grammaw?) |
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Irish Rose Member Patricius
since 2000-04-06
Posts 10263 |
Nothing, nothing at all. Sometimes the solitude is nurturing, sometimes it allows your soul to breathe and you need the wind whistling through the windowsill, the candle blowing, the blue pages of people you've come to know and all of that. You take the phone off of the hook, reflect on your private pain and take a deep breath and you go on. You simply go on and being alone isn't the worst thing in the world, it isn't always a sign of depression and oh, I become so weary of people thinking that. A quilt, a cup of hot tea, a nice nap in the middle of the afternoon and a poem. What's wrong with that? No, there's absolutely nothing wrong with rest and being alone. Now, lonely is another thing but you know something? I have been around people all of my life and felt lonely, now, I am not lonely although I should feel that way but I just feel peaceful and at terms with who I am. " I walked beside the evening sea And dreamed a dream that could not be" George William Curtis" |
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Sven
since 1999-11-23
Posts 14937East Lansing, MI USA |
There's nothing wrong with wanting to be alone for a while. . . but, when you want to always be alone. . . well, for me, I just don't see it. . . Hmmmmmm. . . there's more. . . I just can't put it into words right now. . . I'll be back. . . ------------------------------------------------------------- To the world, you may only be one person. But to one person, you may be the world. |
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wayoutwalt Member Elite
since 1999-06-22
Posts 4870TEXAS (it's all big) |
because the person that might be saying this is such a fun person that its hard to expect anyone to wanna just let them go at a "i just wanna be left alone" |
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anonymousfemale Member Elite
since 2000-02-02
Posts 2797Limbo |
Oh Sharon, there is everything wrong with being alone! All that time to yourself? Not wanting to be around other people? You mean you don't want to be surrounded by conversations you have no intention of wanting to take part in? Oh for shame!  jk, jkThere's nothing wrong with wanting to be alone. Being alone is a good thing. You don't have to talk to anyone, do anything that you don't want to and if you're lucky, you get to relax. I suggest you buy yourself a house where you can lock all the windows and doors and just sit in the middle of it and scream, "YES I'M ALONE! YAHOO!!!" Most people that bug you when you're alone don't understand the importance of time to yourself. Obviously, they don't get any free time themselves to truly understand how wonderful it is. Keep smiling though. ~AF~ Q:What's brown and black and looks great on a lawyer? |
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Allysa 
since 1999-11-09
Posts 1952In an upside-down garden |
When i want to be alone, I hide in the closet. No one can find me until they decide to put clothes away, and then when they open the door, out I tumble. One day, the phone rang and it was for me. My mom walked into my room and upon not seeing me, told the person on the phone I was outside or something. Later(maybe 5 minutes), she was sitting in the living room when I walked out of my room and scared her. It was funny. I go in the closet when I want to be alone. I take the flashlight, my portable cd player, my cd carrier case, the phone, and a notebook and pen with me.  Someone once taught me that it doesn't matter what other people think of you as long as you like yourself. That's what I live by. |
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