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Kethry
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0 posted 2001-03-16 05:36 AM


On the day my father died
I could not be by his side
He did not see the tears I cried
The way I held the hurt inside
On the day he died.

He did not hear my words of love
The prayers I prayed to God above
The hope that rested like a dove
That he might stay till I could move
On that day he died.

I wanted so, to hold his hand
For him to know I'd understand
If life wasn't all that he planned
If he'd lost the last command
On the day he died

To see his smile one more time
To hear from him one last rhyme
To let him know that I'll be fine
Are the things I wished were mine
On the day he died.

Because my life's filled to the brim
And my work kept me from him
I know this dream is just a whim
He died, I wasn't there for him
On the day he died.

On the day my father died
I stayed the tears, held back by pride
I walked away half dead inside
Not knowing why I had not cried
On the day he died

Now two years have come and gone
My misery lives on and on
Remembering all we could have done
If I'd been where I belonged
On the day he died.



Those of us who refuse to risk and grow get swallowed up by life. Patty Hansen.




[This message has been edited by Kethry (edited 03-16-2001).]

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Sudhir Iyer
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1 posted 2001-03-16 06:16 AM


Kethry,

It is sad but well-written...

Regards to you,
Sudhir

2dalimit
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2 posted 2001-03-16 06:18 AM


I feel your sorrow. But, your love shows, and he knew it. Take care.
Melton

JamesMichael
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3 posted 2001-03-16 06:31 AM


That's sad Kethry...sorry you missed that opportunity...I was in Germany when my dad died in California and due to us not getting along I missed the last two years my dad was alive...now I wish we could have been closer...James
Sunshine
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4 posted 2001-03-16 08:13 AM


Kethry....I am very sorry that you were not able to hold his hand as he passed on...you will always remember it, but do know, little one...he does not blame you...he understood, all along...

p.s. change rembering to remembering...last stanza, third line...

Sven
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5 posted 2001-03-16 01:05 PM


indeed. . . as Sunshine said. . . they never hold a grudge. . .

this touched me today. . . reminding me of the night that I lost my own Father. . . so many years ago. . .

thank you Kethry. . .

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To the world, you may only be one person. But to one person, you may be the world.

suthern
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6 posted 2001-03-16 02:58 PM


The sadness and self-beratement are heart breaking... I know nothing can erase the sadness or regrets... but don't give yourself blame he'd never wish on you... I simply don't believe you could write with such love without having shown it... so he knew, dear lady... Remember the times you had together, not that one you missed... smile for him... and forgive his beautiful little girl. *S* Great poem!
Joyce Johnson
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7 posted 2001-03-16 04:17 PM


Kethry. I am sorry for you that you missed being there, but the important thing is were you there at other times and did he know you loved him? I lost my son two years ago, also. What has saved my sanity is knowing I was always there when he needed me even though he died suddenly in his own bed and of course I couldn't tell him goodby. Love, Joyce
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8 posted 2001-03-16 06:11 PM


A loss always is harder to bear when you don't get to say goodbye I think. I didn't get to say goodbye to my father either and never dreamed he would go at such a young age. However, we shared a loving relationship and even though we lived in different cities, the tie was always there.
I hope you will find comfort soon.

Betty Lou Hebert

Marsha
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9 posted 2001-03-16 06:28 PM


Kethry dear heart, this touched me deeply, it's a terrible thing when you don't get the chance to say one last time that you love someone. But then you know my views on that, there's not a day goes pass without me telling those they are loved by me that they are valued. This poem shows how very much your father was valued and loved by you and he knew that. It's a bond stronger that any chains and it will for all time link the two of you together. Wherever you are you hold him in your heart dear one, and memories don't really die, we just pretend they do. He is there beloved, and so are you.

This is as always pure magic that you have written, utterly brilliant and the love you have shines through this illuminating it with wonder and love.
Take care love as always
Slushy


Take back the hope you gave,- I claim
Only a memory of the same
Robert Browning



Marsha
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10 posted 2001-03-16 06:30 PM


Kethry dear heart, this touched me deeply, it's a terrible thing when you don't get the chance to say one last time that you love someone. But then you know my views on that, there's not a day goes pass without me telling those they are loved by me that they are valued. This poem shows how very much your father was valued and loved by you and he knew that. It's a bond stronger that any chains and it will for all time link the two of you together. Wherever you are you hold him in your heart dear one, and memories don't really die, we just pretend they do. He is there beloved, and so are you.

This is as always pure magic that you have written, utterly brilliant and the love you have shines through this illuminating it with wonder and love.
Take care love as always
Slushy


Take back the hope you gave,- I claim
Only a memory of the same
Robert Browning



Irish Rose
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11 posted 2001-03-16 08:13 PM


This is a beautiful tribute, Kethry. I believe in angels and I truly believe they are there when we cannot be. God bless you.

Kathleen Blake

"When red-haired girls scamper like roses over the rain-green grass,
and the sun drips honey."
Laurie Lee


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12 posted 2001-03-16 08:24 PM


Kethry~
*Hugs* ... because I understand.
Love ya'
~*Marge*~


~*The pen of the poet never runs out of ink, as long as we breathe.*~
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Mother_Earth
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13 posted 2001-03-17 12:08 PM


Kethry, I didn't get to say good bye to either of my parents as they left me. It was years apart and so unexpected. We were not a family to show love and with my family, I am trying to change that. I talk to my mom sometimes and her angel is with me I am sure. We get along better now than when she was really here. Make sense? I am sure your Dad is with you at all times and you will be surprised when he lets you know. Be ready and be happy. Forgive yourself and hugs, ME
Katherine Chandler
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14 posted 2001-03-17 12:21 PM


For some reason the tears came down as I read this very poignant poem. Some things are not meant to be, perhaps you weren't there for a reason you're not aware of. Regardless, the poem spoke of love for a father. Be gentle with yourself..

Kate

Genuine poetry can communicate before it is understood.
T S Eliot

VAS
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15 posted 2001-03-17 01:11 AM


I, too, was not with my dad when he died. I really could have been if I'd let myself go, away from work and being scheduled to sing a solo that coming Sunday in church...I really thought there was more time and I would be able to come later. But something was revealed to me the day of his funeral, e-mail me if you'd like to hear about it. Princess Pout made a very good point. I believe I got to find out why I was not there.
JLR
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16 posted 2001-03-17 01:25 AM


I read this much earlier today...still not sure what to say. My relationship is not what I wish it was. But it is what it is.
Paula Finn
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17 posted 2001-03-17 02:16 AM


Kethry...sister mine...you cannot blame yourself for living your life...but I do know how you feel love...hugs to you
jonmcm
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18 posted 2001-03-17 04:31 PM


Kethry, there is a lot of love expressed in this poem for your father, as well as there being regret.

I will dwell on the love the poem expresses, it is much more constructive!

Thinking of you
Jon

Janet Marie
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19 posted 2001-03-17 09:11 PM


To see his smile one more time
To hear from him one last rhyme
To let him know that I'll be fine
Are the things I wished were mine
On the day he died.
====================

you've done him proud with your own rhymes Keth ...
perhaps his gift inherited to you
well done tribute with a very clever rhyme scheme.
hugs Keth.

We wish ourselves beautiful,
we cry in the night.
Its not the love you fear ...
its the fall from the height.
~Edwin McCain~

nakdthoughts
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20 posted 2001-03-17 09:33 PM


Kethry, I have kept away from reading this for as long as I can..for personal reasons...but you did a wonderful poem in his remembrance..huggzz

~Wynter

"The worst prison would be a closed heart".
...Pope John Paul II



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21 posted 2001-03-17 09:36 PM


No doubt this one came straight from the heart, Kethry....beautiful work,,
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