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Poet deVine
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since 1999-05-26
Posts 22612Hurricane Alley |
Are you nice? Is there such a thing as TOO nice? And sometimes, if you have a reputation for being 'nice', some people could use you. Is there a way to NOT be used without losing your niceness? (is this as confusing to YOU as it is to me?) |
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Denise
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since 1999-08-22
Posts 22648 |
Yep, I ask myself this every day...still don't have an answer! Oh, what the heck, we just can't help being nice!! If people abuse that, well, then they are the ones with the problem!  Denise |
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Nan
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since 1999-05-20
Posts 21191Cape Cod Massachusetts USA |
...by having clear cut boundaries on NiceNess... being able to recognize when someone steps over the line.... then digging in the heels, holding ground..... and saying "NO"... with a NICE SMILE...  |
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Poet deVine
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since 1999-05-26
Posts 22612Hurricane Alley |
'NO'..hmmm...but it's hard sometimes you know...especially when you've always been the 'yes' man.. |
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Irie Senior Member
since 1999-12-01
Posts 1493Washington State |
Hey Sharon, not at all. I understand everyword. I'd like to think that I am a nice person, but not TOO nice. Usually those that are TOO nice end up a fake person who I really don't care for much at all. Anyway, I am one who will always try to be the moderator, keep the peace, bend over backwards for my friends etcetcetc. And yes, I'm at one point or another walked on. Maybe I am too nice. Funny you should bring this up..... I've just had an issue today in fact that has made me crazy, and I decided that I WILL NOT set my self up anymore for heart ache and head ache! Ok, well I'm in babble mode. So, in anwer to your question, yes, people can bee TOO nice, and if they are not FAKE people (like me) then there is a GREAT chance in getting hurt or walked on. ~Sheri "The things that come to those that wait may be the things left by those who got there first" |
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Irie Senior Member
since 1999-12-01
Posts 1493Washington State |
Ooops....Missed part of the answer. Yes there is Sharon. Be firm but nice at the same time. Like nan said......dig your heals in. Oh do I know JUST where you are comig from, it's almost spooky. Is this a friend issue??? ~Sheri "The things that come to those that wait may be the things left by those who got there first" |
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Poet deVine
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since 1999-05-26
Posts 22612Hurricane Alley |
Yes, Irie, friends and coworkers mostly... |
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Dopey Dope
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Member Patricius
since 2000-08-30
Posts 11132San Juan, Puerto Rico |
I think the key is to balance out nice and mean. The fact is.....people try to take advantage of those who are blind to be nice to everybody. Sometimes we just have to stick up for OURSELVES.  I was born myself, raised myself, and will continue to be myself. The world will just have to adjust. I'm in love with my shadow I admire it daily |
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Sven
since 1999-11-23
Posts 14937East Lansing, MI USA |
although some would disagree I have been told that I am far too "nice" about things. . . (and no, you cannot have the names of those people. . . ) I have been told this several times. . .and it's lead to exactly what you've talked about deVine. . . but perhaps I've learned a thing or two about standing up for myself. . . well, maybe. . . ------------------------------------------------------- To the world, you may only be one person. But to one person, you may be the world. |
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dreamer1 12 5 24 Member
since 2000-12-11
Posts 150crossing between |
Ouch. Um, here goes. 1. Yes, I'm nice. 2. Yes, people will most definetly use you if you are too nice. 3. Yes, just do that thing what Nan said. How did I do? Did that help? Last year I had a friend who was suicidal, she was using me, and I was using her, and we got along fine most of the time, but the funny thing is, we proabably helped each other by using each other. It was really weird. I was screwed last year. Anyway, I'm babbling. ....peace as a primary objective is dangerous because it implies that we would sacrifice anything for the sake of it.... Robert Kaplan |
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dreamer1 12 5 24 Member
since 2000-12-11
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Oops. Yes, there is such a thing as too nice. I get told I'm too nice at least once a day. Maybe that's why... ah, never mind. ....peace as a primary objective is dangerous because it implies that we would sacrifice anything for the sake of it.... Robert Kaplan |
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fractal007 Senior Member
since 2000-06-01
Posts 1958 |
I'm with Dopey. I am often characterized as a nice/gentle person. However, people sometimes overrate that. I remember in highschool, when I got busted for swearing in french class, because my friends were trying to get me to say an objectionable thing to the teacher, lol. People always thought I was a patron saint of some sort, lol. I think that there's that little "demon" inside us all. We need to let it get out sometimes, so that we can use it. Or as that song goes, if we don't like what we see, we shouldn't be afraid to "raise a little hell." But, on the other hand, being too naughty can also result in a few problems. Crime being the foremost, lol. So, in everything, we need a happy medium. |
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Elizabeth
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since 1999-06-07
Posts 6871Minnesota |
Me? Naughty, definitely!  |
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