i dont believe in 'love at first sight' cuz its plainly not true. there can only ever be 'LUST' at first sight.
i think, to TRULY love someone, you have to know them inside out and Love THAT holistically. and not do you have to love that, THEY have to love you in the very same way. that's love. there's no other substitute.

could the darkness be my friend?

These smiling eyes are just a mirror for the sun.
-RHCP

Do I dare to look at whats really there,
Will I be burned?
I cant see past all the pain and tortiure that goes on in the places we call,
home.
~Az

Sudhir

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Human nature is such that you can never know any one (frankly not even yourself) inside out.

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ok. so you're basically saying that getting to know someone as intimately as being able to calculate their next move is impossible. that you could never have a friendship as close as being able to look into that other persons soul?
sure ppl are chaning...the WORLD is dynamic. expecting ppl and the world to remain constant is being nieve.  i agree with you- ppl are dynamic and thought patterns and feelings change. but i disagree with you strongly when you say that you could never attain that higher level of friendship with a person. differences and change is what keeps a relationship interesting and refreshing- even turbulent somewhat...but it doesnt keep you from getting to know the person as intimately as knowing them fully. have you ever attained that level of trust in someone Sudhir? to the point where they dug right into their souls and told you EVERYTHING- even if they never meant to tell a soul? its when that happens that you realise that you know them as well as you know the lines on the back of your hand. have you ever had a REALLY best friend? one whom you shared your darkest moments with- your happiest moments with..one whom you cried with- though your pride would otherwise NEVER let you show you in a weakened state with anyone else? THAT'S how ppl get to know each other as intimately as being able to say that they know each other completely.
sure ppl change...ive said that before...and as those ppl change- you discover more to them then you had before. its a good thing...but it isnt impossible.

Sudhir,

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Don’t people look at a car  or a house or a cat or a dog and say "I love it/him/her, though I don’t yet know entirely why, but I want to find out".

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erm. i shake my head with vigor at that! it seems as though youre content with diluting the purity of love down to the attributes of a "crush". it sounds like something out of a teen flick. i dont mean to undermine your intelligence Sudhir, but that statement seems pretty petty.
think of it this way- Love would be the opposite of Hate, right? if you saw something for the first time- say a rubber band...and you had NEVER seen that rubber band before in your life. you'd seen some like it...but never one like this. with your previous encounters with like rubber bands, you have an immeadiate aversion towards it- would you attribute that feeling to intense hate? enough to call it Hate? (here im assuming that with the statement 'Love at first sight', that we're talking about pure love...and not diluted crush love..and thus we're talking about Hate as well and not petty hate)

it wouldnt make much sense if you put it into that context to Hate something so intensely when you hardly know it. sure ATTRACTION is something...but THAT is ALL that it is- attraction. not Love.

Love is lasting...when you know the person entirely enough to want to STAY with that person...believe me...youre LONG married to the person before you even get to put a wedding band around that person's finger to even worry about your honeymoon ending.

i hope you find TRUE Love Sudhir.

could the darkness be my friend?