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Lori Grosser Rhoden
Member Patricius

since 2009-10-10

Posts 10202
Fair to middlin' of nowhere

0 posted 2017-09-24 10:28 AM

I feel him slipping through my fingers
a little more each day.
Less and less my words hold sway.
I live with the dread
of waking up and he is dead.
His mind defeated,
his body depleted,
wanting so badly to be well.
Treatment was hell.
Recovery painfully slow
Fighting what he doesn’t know
how to overcome with his tools.
Nothing follows his rules
or expectations,
creating frustrations
and foul moods
as he tries different foods
to get down his throat.
Stubborn as a goat
with no appetite,
it is always a fight
just to eat like a bird.
How many times I’ve heard
“This tastes funny.”
“ I know, Honey.”
“I can’t swallow it,
no saliva won’t allow it”
And I just want to say,
“Eat it anyway!!
I’m losing you
and there’s nothing I can do!”
There is no giving helpful advice.
It’s all I can do to be nice.
I’m scared and at a loss.
I wish I was boss.

JerryPat2
Member Laureate

since 2011-02-06

Posts 16975
South Louisiana

1 posted 2017-09-24 06:01 PM

YOU are boss my special friend. I realize how difficult it must be, but YOU are boss. Do what it takes to make him eat. You are not meek and mild, show yourself and help your man live again.

~ If they give you ruled paper, write sideways. ~

nakdthoughts
Member Laureate

since 2000-10-29

Posts 19200
Between the Lines

2 posted 2017-09-24 06:01 PM

I feel your words...and wish you both the best.

Bluesy Socrateaser
Member Elite

since 2002-11-07

Posts 2417
In The Mirror

3 posted 2017-09-24 10:44 PM

All our situations and relationships are different. Rarely, will any 'one size solution' fit all. Still, it's hard sometimes to want more for someone than they want for themselves. Sometimes it's easy, but there's a brutal tax on the effort.

...just bein' Bluesy

Lori Grosser Rhoden
Member Patricius

since 2009-10-10

Posts 10202
Fair to middlin' of nowhere

4 posted 2017-09-25 07:57 AM

Oh Jerry, I can only be the boss of me. This week end I wasn't feeling well and I wasn't cooking (I finally made some oatmeal on Sunday evening)Needless to say he didn't get his calories in and come Monday he is questioning if he is up to work or not. He will go anyway and suffer the consequences. ~L

Lori Grosser Rhoden
Member Patricius

since 2009-10-10

Posts 10202
Fair to middlin' of nowhere

5 posted 2017-09-25 08:01 AM

Thanks nakdthoughts,
I appreciate it. The frustration is overwhelming-we beat the cancer but the recovery is horrible. ~L

Lori Grosser Rhoden
Member Patricius

since 2009-10-10

Posts 10202
Fair to middlin' of nowhere

6 posted 2017-09-25 08:10 AM

Bluesy,
He wants it bad enough, all most too much and gets unrealistic expectations and frustrations and mind games with himself-like too much food on the plate can overwhelm him and he talks himself into being full. It is craziness. ~L

Poet In Pink
Senior Member
Posts 1066
MI

7 posted 2017-10-02 05:37 PM

So sorry to hear this Lori ~ Have you thought about or tried Ensure or Boost? I know when my Mom got to where she couldn't eat I would open a can of that and put some vanilla ice cream in it and make a shake for her. Just an idea Alana

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