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JamesMichael
Member Empyrean

since 1999-11-16

Posts 33336
Kapolei, Hawaii, USA

0 posted 2011-12-11 09:11 PM

Having It Both Ways

Some people say
you can't have
it both ways.
My honey chooses
to live in Chicago
but still maintains
I am her boyfriend.
I'm thinking that
I need to look at it
more realistically.
By her living in Chicago
she is sending me a message
that she doesn't want
to be my girlfriend,
because my girlfriend
wants to be close to me
and my girlfriend wants to
kiss me good morning and goodnight
and my girlfriend wants to look
into my eyes when she says
sweet words like "I love you."
So unfortunately I have to say,
"My girlfriend can't have it both ways."

JamesLee
07December
2011

JerryPat2
Member Laureate

since 2011-02-06

Posts 16975
South Louisiana

1 posted 2011-12-11 09:29 PM

Seems you have come to a hard decision. Sounds like the right one from where I sit.

~*~ If they give you lined paper, write sideways. ~*~

Margherita
Member Seraphic

since 2003-02-08

Posts 22236
Eternity

2 posted 2011-12-13 06:40 PM

Love at distance is always rather frustrating in the long run, you are right, dear James, but there may be contingent reasons for postponing the decision to come closer. (work, parents etc.).

Wish you well, romantic Poet!

Margherita

JamesMichael
Member Empyrean

since 1999-11-16

Posts 33336
Kapolei, Hawaii, USA

3 posted 2011-12-19 12:56 PM

Thank you Jerry and Margherita...she is raising her daughter...James

Margherita
Member Seraphic

since 2003-02-08

Posts 22236
Eternity

4 posted 2011-12-19 05:34 AM

I understand, raising her daughter is certainly the number one priority, dear James. Be patient!

Margherita

Nicole
Senior Member

since 1999-06-23

Posts 1835
Florida

5 posted 2011-12-19 07:04 AM

A very difficult situation indeed, on all counts. You've depicted that well...and sometimes it does come down to a decision one way or another, but if it can sustain, then it is even sweeter for it. Much luck to you

passing shadows
Member Empyrean

since 1999-08-26

Posts 45577
displaced

6 posted 2011-12-19 01:41 PM

sorry about that James.

JL
Member Ascendant

since 2004-04-01

Posts 6128
Texas, USA

7 posted 2011-12-19 03:15 PM

Hummmm....
That's a tough situation.

JL

Love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul,and with all your mind. Love your neighbor as yourself.
Maranatha!

jwesley
Member Rara Avis

since 2000-04-30

Posts 7563
Spring, Texas

8 posted 2011-12-19 06:38 PM

Chicago, huh ... so 4000 plus miles. Other than the fact that she could turn this piece around and say "my boyfriend lives in Hawaii...", if she plans on staying in Chicago, and you Hawaii --- it's a no brainer.

Life has to go on. . . and not necessarily ideally for either or both parties.

You have to love what you had and go on . . . or do as my wife and I did when we came to a decision about living in different cities...

We got married and so far . . . 38 years.

j.

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