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Sexualtension New Member
since 1999-12-03
Posts 6Sherwood, AR, USA |
Hello. I am new to this forum and I don't know much but the place "Feelings" seemed apropriate for this. I am in mid teens and I just got engaged I love my fiancee very much but theres just one thing I have these thoughts run through my head of wondering if I am that different that she is willing to spend the rest of our lives together. My question is are these thoughts natural or have I jumped in pre maturily? ------------------ My Love Is Yet A Burning Flame Waiting To BE Put Out |
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danni Senior Member
since 1999-11-20
Posts 688wisconsin |
I would say that this is premature. So many things can change and will change within the next few years. Granted things are always changing but I think the most profound changes happen from about 18-21. At least in my experience. I was in a serious relationship with this guy from the time I was 15 until I was 19. I got pregnant by him, we moved in together, and everything fell apart. To keep it short, the things he wanted out of life were very from the things I wanted. We ended up being miserable toghether which lead to bigger problems. Finally he left me with a baby, a stack of bills, and no job because I had just had our son. Basically what i'm trying to say is, if you love each other , take your time. Wait until you're old enough to move in together. Beleive me, that's when you'll really get to know each other. And then take it from there. There's is no need to rush a good thing. if it is meant to last, it will last. |
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Isis Member Ascendant
since 1999-09-06
Posts 6296Sunny Queensland |
Don't rush anything is my advice. You are both so young, and you will both change so much in the next 15 years. I met my husband when I was barely 16, and the changes I've gone through as a person, mother etc. have really worried and confused him. You have to be sure of who you are before you marry. And being young things can change completely overnight. Just sit back and enjoy the ride for a few more years yet. Learn and experience life together now and later... The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there IS to celebrate. ~Isis~ (Daughter of Mystery) |
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Severn Member Rara Avis
since 1999-07-17
Posts 7704 |
Hi. I would be inclined to support the above opinions. I am 24 now. At 21 I got engaged to a man I thought was a dream come true. He wasn't and thank God I never married him. But that isn't the real issue - the issue is that I am almost a completely different person now than I was three years ago. You WILL undergo a lot of changes in the next few years - that is a certainty. Your love may be strong, but if you feel the need to ask this question I would gently suggest that you consider waiting for awhile. Only you can make the decision in the end though and I wish you well.  K |
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Tara Simms Senior Member
since 1999-08-12
Posts 1244Honea Path, SC USA |
Ditto what everyone else said. Teen years is hardly a time to devote your life to another person. I married when I was 18, I thought I wanted to be with him forever. I am now 25 and getting divorced. I've changed a lot in the last 7 years, as did he. It matters not how strait the gate; How charged with punishments the scroll; I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul. --W.E. Henley |
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WhtDove Member Rara Avis
since 1999-07-22
Posts 9245Illinois |
I have to say the same thing. You are so young and have so much time ahead of you. If you guys love each other, it will hold the test of time. Marriage is not something to rush into. Take some time, most of all some prayers and wait. It's so easy to get into it, but not as easy to get out of it. Marriage is a sacred thing between two people before God! Take your time, spend time with each other, get to know each other more. Good Luck and God guide your path! <*\\\>< Jesus is the reason for the season |
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Marilyn Member Elite
since 1999-09-26
Posts 2621Ontario, Canada |
I agree with all the above. When we are young we think we can face the world head on. Nothing will bend or break us. I was 23 when I married...at the age of 30 I was divorced with 3 children. You need to let time and change show you who you and your fiance really are. You have your entire life ahead of you, why burden yourself with the responibities so early? Being in love is enough for now...don't rush the rest of your life. Just MHO. |
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Pepper Member Elite
since 1999-08-19
Posts 3079Southern Florida |
I think everyone above have given you the advice that you seek....so I just want to say Welcome to Passions A soul that writes from the heart and shares it, truly gives a gift extraordinaire! |
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