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MinisterJoe New Member
since 2002-05-20
Posts 8Texas |
Heya guys--I was brought over to this site, by Angel, an old-timer (but she still looks damn good for seventeen. lol) from Enter the Muse, and I want to chunk this topic out to you. I've had several online friendships, that have recently taken quite a beating, and you know what I've found? Even though these partnerships--writing, chatting, just plain old fooling around--are just virtual, when the mettle of the relationship is tested by some very real emotions, and events, it gets stronger. And those friends that were never meant to be--fall to the wayside. So now, when someone says it's just an online friendship, I have to turn to them and say, "So how is that different from any other friendship?" What do you guys think? --Joe (a ridiculously happy man because my sweet Suz brought me here) Ta Angel  |
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Angel Senior Member
since 1999-07-02
Posts 551Pennsylvania |
We may have had our troubles but we're still here. Kind of hard to get rid of the two of us. You'll fit right in here, Joe, I promise. As far as online friendships, I was weary of them at first, but as you know as well as anyone, they can be quite real. I am beginning to get attached to my online family, especially you bro  .Well, sit back, relax and enjoy this simply awesome site. My, it feels good to be back. ~Susie |
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MinisterJoe New Member
since 2002-05-20
Posts 8Texas |
Suz, you know you're my 'lil Sis? Now when am I getting prom pics? Impatiently taps Doc Martens... And thank you again--this site is a much welcome change in atmosphere--ahhh is that what oxygen smells like? lol  "My center is giving way, my right is in retreat; situation excellent. I shall attack." Ferdinand Foch - Battle of the Marne |
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Wallflower New Member
since 2002-05-20
Posts 3VA/US |
Aww you guys, gonna get me all mushy and shtuff. I think the only difference btwn online and "real" (pfft) friends, is that real friends can hold your hand, but they can also smack that hand. You have to know what your dealing with i suppose. i'm just glad i do have the ol friends that i do. |
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MinisterJoe New Member
since 2002-05-20
Posts 8Texas |
Brandi! Good lord, this is an ETM convention. Do we get name badges, and have to hold a glass of punch for two hours talking about nothing? Of course not, because you gals rock. Oh yes--*stretches out in recliner*--this is now home. "My center is giving way, my right is in retreat; situation excellent. I shall attack." Ferdinand Foch - Battle of the Marne [This message has been edited by MinisterJoe (05-20-2002 11:17 PM).] |
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Nan
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Member Seraphic
since 1999-05-20
Posts 21191Cape Cod Massachusetts USA |
Passions in Poetry is more than a group of online friends. It's a virtual online family. We're a very close knit circle of writers who support each other through laughter and tears. We meet when we can, we enjoy each other, and we rely upon each other. That's what we're all about. After all, we have a common bond... We all write... and we always have room for more writers in this family. Welcome..  |
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MinisterJoe New Member
since 2002-05-20
Posts 8Texas |
Thank you Nan for the welcome--I'm really looking forward to adding to the family. --Joe |
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Titia Geertman Member Ascendant
since 2001-05-07
Posts 5182Netherlands |
Hi MinisterJoe, I'm sure you'll like it in this family, cuz there ain't nothing like it on the net. Once you signed up, you are hooked for life. All a bunch of addicts we are LOL Welcome Joe, I'll be seeing you 'round then Titia A rose is a rose is a rose...I guess... |
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bsquirrel
since 2000-01-03
Posts 7855 |
It's like any family, really. Once yr in, there's no escape. Heh heh. Nah, online relationships are fine. But they can be frustrating at points, too. Touch -- even in friendship -- is a very important part of human interaction. So is sight. *Hearing.* But ... it's awright. She said burn ... together. |
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MinisterJoe New Member
since 2002-05-20
Posts 8Texas |
Ta for the welcome Titia, families are special enough by themselves, but a family brought together by a common artistic need and love to write--to get feedback--to express themselves, well that is a special family indeed. I've found that strength--either creative, skill, or soul--comes from patience, compassion, an innate knowledge of when it's time to laugh, be silly, completely serious, and tough. Angel tells me that passions is like that--and from what I've seen, and read so far--I've found that to be true. So I definitely will be seeing you around. bsquirrel--yes touch is vital. But in some ways, my online friends--my small online family has been able to that somehow through cyberspace... although nothing can compare to a real hug at the right moment, but they come real close sometimes. Thanks again for the welcome y'all. (I was born in Texas...I just had to say that) --Joe "My center is giving way, my right is in retreat; situation excellent. I shall attack." Ferdinand Foch - Battle of the Marne [This message has been edited by MinisterJoe (05-21-2002 08:26 PM).] |
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Midnitesun
since 2001-05-18
Posts 28647Gaia |
Welcome to the friendliest forum around. Mind your table manners, and everyone will not only serve you delicious treats, they will gobble up the ones you offer.  BTW, I like devils food cake once in a while, but angel food is cool too. |
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Severn Member Rara Avis
since 1999-07-17
Posts 7704 |
Hey Joe welcome..I've found a few things in my three years of forming close friendships over the net... Firstly - some of them have truly stood the test of time...some of these people are just as close - and one or two are even closer - than my 'real life' friends. I've met several and those meetings enabled me to transform the shadow of the person into the whole... But then...then there are those who seem to find it easier to disappear because of the absence of face-to-face communication. And this has been openly stated by several people who have been quite 'close' to me... For some - the distancing has resulted because of outside life, and other circumstances...and this is understandable over this medium..  K |
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MinisterJoe New Member
since 2002-05-20
Posts 8Texas |
Ahh Midnitesun, you'll find that I bring in equal share of devil's food and angel food cake to the table, but I always mind my manners--my grandmother would thwack the back of my hand with a fork if I got too grabby... ahh family dinners are going to be fun around here. Severn, It is much easier for people to pull away in the cyber world, and to come back again. I describe this as the yoyo effect, and once I really let it get to me, until I realized that they we're going to do what they needed to do. Maybe they needed space, time, quiet... and I just had to accept them on their own terms, and garner what positive things I could out of the relationship. And then there are those steadfast bonds--I would love to meet with some of these friends, that seem to never waver in intensity. These people are more than friends.. they are indeed family. --Joe |
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Wallflower New Member
since 2002-05-20
Posts 3VA/US |
sometimes online friends have a harder time being more considerate. thank you joe for being considerate of my feelings i luv ya lots[This message has been edited by Wallflower (05-22-2002 07:47 PM).] |
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NapalmsConstantlyConfused
since 2001-05-15
Posts 529 |
my take on online relationships is admittedly biased (for reasons that should be obvious to anyone that knows both Tara and myself,) but it seems straightforward to me. the basis of a true friendship is the mind. not the car you drive, or the money you have (or don't, lol,) or your appearance, or your "image." your mind. although it is in fact quite easy to lie online, faking a whole personality is much more difficult. an online relationship, whether friendship or romance, offers an otherwise impossible opportunity: you get to know the PERSON, without being distracted by inessentials like "wow, pretty." i say inessentials because by the time you hit 80, you aren't pretty anymore, no matter HOW you started out. what keeps you going into a true, deep, lasting relationship of any kind is the mind and personality of the people involved, and online, that's what you get to know first. what a great idea! if you can get along with the person, everything else can be worked out. if you think they have a nice rump, but you hate their personality - well, that's kind of a problem, lmao. as long as you keep a healthy sense of paranoia, online == good -Dave |
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Christopher
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Member Rara Avis
since 1999-08-02
Posts 8296Purgatorial Incarceration |
i agree with most of what's said above... i have many friends online... and though i haven't met most of them, they are no less special to me for that. |
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Mysteria
since 2001-03-07
Posts 18328British Columbia, Canada |
Funny since going to Nan's this summer and meeting poets in person, I am even closer to the friends I have made in Passions, as I think you see more of a person when they write as they speak their heart. In everyday friendships, I think a lot is really hidden that is inside a person, the old, be strong thing, whereas in here you can just be yourself and are accepted accordingly. Joe, you are going to love this family, they really do stick together and look out for each other. Welcome! ~* Tell someone in your family that you love them today *~ |
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Ladycat
since 1999-07-05
Posts 782At the edge and a doorway,TX |
Hiya, It's nice to have you here with us. Take your shoes off and stay awhile. It is always great to meet new people here. Not that the old ones are bad, but it is nice to see how much that we have grown. In July, I will have been here for three years. Before I was here, I was over at the other forum with the same people. Now, I love these people and I know these people, but they don't know half as much about me as my RL friends do. They aren't around as much. One of my very bestfriends lives across the highway from me and see come to the forum from time to time to read all the things that I post, but she also comes to my house. We have lunch together. We are friend. Unfortunately, I can't put all the people on the forum in my pocket and take them home with me no matter how much I try. That is why they will always be my online friends and my friends will always be my friends.. Take care and I'm sure that I confused you more than before. Love, Ladycat Live in my world just once and you'll find yourself enraptured. |
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Dopey Dope
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Member Patricius
since 2000-08-30
Posts 11132San Juan, Puerto Rico |
I believe that these online friendships can be just as real as real life ones....even "more real".....geesh I think my grammar has gone to hell heehee... |
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Interloper
since 2000-11-06
Posts 8369Deep in the heart |
Welcome to Passions. When are you gong to post a poem or ... ? I think you are gonna love this place |
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