Well, Kell you aren't marrying yourself, so I would expect you'd want to include the traditions of the groom, if he wants a traditional wedding. Marriage should be a sharing, a giving, a celebration of love and friendship between two people, not just what one wants. The music can be whatever you and he choose, as a couple, and the vows should reflect your personal dreams. It's yours and your partner's wedding, but when families are invited, it makes sense to me to honor some traditional elements.
Anyway, you two have time to work through the details. Have fun writing those vows and picking out your favorite music! LOL, years ago I went to a beach wedding, totally non traditional except for the exchanging of rings. It was fun for everyone, and I think the families appreciated the relaxed atmosphere. A friend of mine who is a skydiver jumped from a plane and landed on a circle drawn in the sand in front of the couple and the minister, and presented the rings. It was a memorable wedding for all.
But my point is, they did the minister and the ring thing to make BOTH sets of parents happy. Their original plan was hilarious, calling for an exchange of surfboards with the vows given by a lifeguard. LOL.
It's a special day, but only one day. It's all the other days afterwards you need to pay attention to, they ARE the marriage, not the ceremony.