Ft. Lauderdale, Fl USA
With all due respect to Interloper, he has asked for a comment if his poetry is out of line and I am going to attempt to explain the philosophy of the Open Forum to all so that, hopefully, the poets posting here will understand and no one will feel they are being picked on personally. I would have preferred to do this in Feelings or the Alley but, since he has decided to use the Open Forum to criticize the operation of the Forum, I will answer here.
The Open forum is a family-oriented site. Thousands of people come here to read poetry that we don't even know about. They are not members and do not post comments...they simply come here to read poetry. The idea that Ron had by creating the Open Forum was to have a place where anyone, regardless of age, could come to read enjoyable poetry. The Adult Forum was created for those who wished to be a little more risque with their writing and that is why a password is needed. The poetry posted on the Open Forum should be acceptable for anyone to read.
Love, of course, is one of the greatest topics of poets...always has been and always will be. There is a difference between love and sex. There is a difference between making love and having sex. Poetry that deals strictly with sex or having sex is not acceptable for the Open Forum.
Second, and VERY important, is that we must always keep in mind that those who post here are more than poets...they are PEOPLE. People with lives, with families, husbands, wives, kids.....Interloper, with all due respect, let's suppose for argument's sake that Decaflame, for example, is married. Let's suppose that she has a jealous husband who reads her poetry and the responses she receives. He sees a poem dedicated to her. He sees a man writing about meeting his wife in a hotel room, undressing her and exploring passion with her. Do you suppose he will smile at the man's "poetic license"? Would you? Perhaps Jenn's husband would not care to read about her being covered with honey and whipped cream by another man. I'm sure Kit has NEVER said anything provocative or off-color to invite anything in kind and yet you are kissing her bare throat and pulling her toward you as the passion builds in both of you....explain that one to Mr. Kit or her children? These are PEOPLE...it is our responsibility to know who we are dealing with. There are single ladies here who enjoy flirting....fine. There are married people, like SEA, who states openly that her husband does not mind her flirting at all...fine. But we must respect all and realize that our words bear consequences.
You may think, Interloper, that I am picking on you personally. I'm not. I would have preferred this to have been said in private correspondence but you have chosen to use the Open Forum to publicly announce your displeasure for the moderators who like to "play God". The moderators here put in many hours of their own time, without reward, simply to keep the poetry site something that Ron, and we all, can be proud of. If you, or anyone else, feels that we are not doing a good job, then you may petition Ron to replace us but we are not going to be used as "whipping boys" on the same site we are moderating. Ron has set the guidelines. They are not stringent or unfair. We do our best to follow them. All who can accept the gracefully are welcome here. It's really not a bad place......