If you have never loved then you do not know what it feels like to be complete. Imagine someone who has never known what it feels like to be unselfish, patient, giving, kind, gentle. True love is patient and kind, unselshish and tolerant. To never have felt that strength in emotion is to never had the oportunity to truely know yourself.
Each situation in our lives teaches us something about ourselves. We can take the experience and learn or we can wallow in the pain. Loving is a very good thing in whatever capacity we are capable of loving.
The secret in this area is being able to recognize a person who is like ourselves. Someone who can love in the same capacity as we can. To give love to another who can not return it in the same capacity is to look for heartache. There are things about ourselves that we can not change (or are unwilling to) and we must find someone who relates to those qualities.
Love takes time to develop and it is only time that can heal the pain of loss. I know this pain intimately but I am not afraid of loving again. Accually I look forward to finding the man I can love completely and truely. The one who wins my love will be a very lucky man. It will be complete and true. It will also not be given away foolishly; I have been down that road before.
Good luck to you and know that your friends keep you in their thoughts.
When you are old and grey and full of sleep,
And nodding by the fire, take down this book,
And slowly read, and dream of the soft look
Your eyes had once, and of their shodows deep;
How many loved your moments of glad grace,
And loved your beauty with love false or true,
But one man loved the pilgrim soul in you,
And loved the sorrows of your changing face...
William Butler Yeats