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LngJhnAg
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0 posted 2004-02-05 07:53 AM


The contradictions of a jealous man are obvious to all but him,
He claims to love and honor his wife, defend her through thick and thin.
Yet, should another compliment her, his reactions clearly convey,
That he considers her an unfaithful wife, not to be trusted in any way.

By his words to others he calls her a harlot, a woman of no moral device,
His actions imply she is easy to seduce by any man, at any price.
Yet she continues her commitment to him to love, honor and obey,
Despite his assumptions concerning those who respect her in every way.

He holds his “possession” in a tight-fisted hand, a miser by every measure,
Mean spirited, destructive, unable to share the beauty of his treasure.
There is no wonder left to admire in a man who continues to persist,
In debasing what his heart desires by actions so plainly remiss.

The moral applies to every person who believes he must defend,
The honor of the woman who loves nobody else but him.
With every assault you erode the love that’s taken years to erect,
If you want to retain your treasure, build walls made of respect.

I wrote this poem for a terrific person who deserves more respect than she gets from the one person from whom she needs it the most.  Her husband, if he reads this, will likely think it is about somebody else. I pity him for his blindness.

© Copyright 2004 Michael Waterman - All Rights Reserved
Seymour Tabin
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1 posted 2004-02-05 08:01 AM


LngJhnAg
If she don't believe this I'll get a partition started LOL One of your best, right from the heart.

LeeJ
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2 posted 2004-02-05 08:30 AM


Jealousy, unfortunately is a sickness that will do nothing but contaminate any relationship...I hope this woman is able to convince her husband of that, and they get counsiling.  I have had to deal with this...and it contaminates so many other lives...also, it always amazes me, that how we see ourselves, is how we will see others...so I'm not at all surprised...I wish both these people the best...if this man realizes he has a problem and wants to change, he will admit he needs help...if not, he will eventually lose his wife...I hope and pray that it all works out in both their behalf.  

God bless you for writing this and caring so.  

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3 posted 2004-02-05 08:35 AM


Denial...I am sure he won't see it...

M

HopeS
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4 posted 2004-02-05 08:38 AM


I will not go in to details , only to say I understand the ladies plight

Hope

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5 posted 2004-02-05 08:46 AM


Excellent write LngJhn....
but I'll bet you dollars to donuts
he won't recognize himself in this at all!
~Smiles & hugs, Nancy~

~ I like not only to be loved,
   but to be told I am loved ~
                
            

Michelle_loves_Mike
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6 posted 2004-02-05 08:57 AM


Very hard hitting write, your friends husband should be made to read it,,,jealousy gets you no where,,,and usually leaves the "treasure" feeling more like trash.
Michelle

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7 posted 2004-02-05 09:40 AM


Your friend has a champion, indeed.  

This has universal appeal to many, LJA, as you can see from the responses thus far.  Too many women could wear the heels of your friend...and it's for this reason, where insane jealousy often leads to far more disastrous compromises, that we are forced to have shelters and the like so that women can once again find themselves, and regain their own individuality, and sense of self-respect.

It makes me wonder how many men will come forward and be able to respond to this..."I know this is not about me...but I know someone who fits this character to a T..."

Well done, Sir.

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8 posted 2004-02-05 12:51 PM


Excellent write, sailor... Jealousy is one of those things where a bit can be good and feel like a compliment... and even a bit more can be miserable and feel like prison bars. Knowing you matter is great... knowing you're not trusted is the absolute pits. I'd hate to know my man's ears didn't perk at the thought of me with someone else... I'd hate to know he didn't have complete faith I have eyes only for him. *S*
It's a fine line... and those scales have to be balanced with trust. *S*

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9 posted 2004-02-05 12:56 PM


Mike, I need to print this out and send it to my ex-husband, but his wife would probably pay for it, one way or another...poor woman (sigh)
Toerag
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10 posted 2004-02-05 02:27 PM


I hate people with this much talent and they just flaunt it all over...don't yall?
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11 posted 2004-02-05 02:32 PM


deep and insightful...you are to be commended for your 'wall building'...here's hoping the he in this gets a clue
JamesMichael
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12 posted 2004-02-05 05:44 PM


As I say...jealousy reveals an insecure person...not happy within themselves they lash out to destroy others happiness...the solution is to find a way to help them feel more secure or get out of the relationship...James
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13 posted 2004-02-05 06:50 PM


With every assault you erode the love that’s taken years to erect,
If you want to retain your treasure, build walls made of respect.

Amen! This applies to any relationship filled with hurt, pain and abuse. Outstanding words of wisdom, LJA. Yes, Toerag, he does have talent and obviously a caring heart.

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14 posted 2004-02-05 07:49 PM


i really liked what you wrote, jealousy is a serious sickness, i know, my man triedt o totally isolate me from others, totally exclude me from all.  


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15 posted 2004-02-05 08:05 PM


By his words to others he calls her a harlot, a woman of no moral device,
His actions imply she is easy to seduce by any man, at any price.
Yet she continues her commitment to him to love, honor and obey,
Despite his assumptions concerning those who respect her in every way.


Oh God, Long John, how I know this. My deceased
husband did me like this almost every day for
many years. The main reason he did was because
He was running around wth so many other husbands wives and
daughters, and sisters, and Mothers......
yes, he was very sick!!


Grover
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16 posted 2004-02-05 08:08 PM


Abuse is a very "un-man-like" injustice. And, as your poem clearly depicts, jealousy is merely a form of abuse. An excellent write. Hope the intended reader reads between the lines and sees his name. Grover.
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17 posted 2004-02-05 08:10 PM


very good and true.
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18 posted 2004-02-05 08:51 PM


lnjjhn,
   great job...  It said so eloquently what many people face. Loved your write and all of the words of those who responded...  You've hit a hot topic, giving it justice.
               ~Sadie

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19 posted 2004-02-05 08:58 PM


LJ,  

I can relate to this...from both perspectives.

I have known the feeling of jealousy in my life,
fortunately ...  in my younger days
when I was far less secure with my marriage
than I am now....  I have also felt the
stinging hurt of infidelity...  but I don't
find fault in anyone other than myself...
for had I given what I should have given..
respect,  love,  companionship,  equality,
and much more...I would have never felt
the negative emotions that I did..

You have written it masterfully,  and I do
hope he reads this,  but I also am of the
opinion that he will not be mature enough
to look inside first....before looking
elsewhere...

Balladeer
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20 posted 2004-02-05 10:36 PM


It's not jealousy, Mike..it's self-belief that one is too worthless to be loved by a woman of value....and it's a shame.

It always seems to work out in the end, though....life is like that.

Darned fine writing, paw-paw

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