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Suetang
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since 2001-03-07
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Melbourne, Australia

0 posted 2003-10-29 10:57 PM



I wrote this for all those people who are
handicapped or physically challenged in any way.
It is often a day to day struggle for
them to be accepted as just a regular person.

* * *

You look firstly at my wheelchair
And then you look at me
'tho I know that you're not blind
You are still unable to see

I am really not that different
I am really much like you
'tho some things may take time
There's still much that I can do

Please don't show me pity
I can look after myself
I'm not like a precious ornament
That sits upon a shelf

Please don't patronise me
And don't pretend to understand
I promise I will let you know
If I need a helping hand

There's no need to speak so slowly
I can hear each word you say
Just treat me with respect
And you will truly make my day

Just accept me as I am
Don't treat me differently
Try to step inside my shoes
And in time I'm sure you'll see

* * *

"The most emotionally healthy people
in our society are able to put
themselves into other people's shoes,
know how someone else is feeling
and care about that.
This capacity extends beyond
sexual and family intimacy.
It creates a circle of genuine feeling
that can extend, eventually,
to all of humankind."

I am in motion
I am blue
Love is an ocean
I'm anchored in you
- Shawn Mullins

© Copyright 2003 Sue Tancheff - All Rights Reserved
Susan Caldwell
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since 2002-12-27
Posts 8348
Florida
1 posted 2003-10-30 12:02 PM


Well said Sue!

"if you won't let me fall for you
then you won't see the best that I would love to do for you"
~Dido~

Sadelite
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since 2003-10-11
Posts 2519

2 posted 2003-10-30 01:13 AM


Suetang,
    This was written with good perspective.
Many of my friends have been handicapped and even i felt handicapped just wearing a simple leg brace temporarily.  Not a good feeling to be treated differently.
    I just printed a copy for my husband to keep at work (he works for the board of mental retardation/developmental disabilities.   He landed a contract with a noteable autoparts maker in the area of brakes and those "handicapped individuals" brought the rate of production quality by close to 17%.   Needless to say, their thoroughness, may have saved people's lives.
         Thank you for bringing this to mind.
                              Sadelite

Earth Angel
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3 posted 2003-10-30 02:15 AM


Hi, Sue! ~ Dear romantic poetess who also has a caring social consciousness!


Linda


passing shadows
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4 posted 2003-10-30 04:29 AM


oh Sue, you have such a beautiful heart
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5 posted 2003-10-30 05:57 PM


Sue:  This has such depth of understanding and love!  You have such a capacity for loving others, no matter what their circumstances!

Love
Betty Lou

Betty Lou Hebert

Kethry
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since 2000-07-29
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Victoria Australia
6 posted 2003-10-30 08:02 PM


It's nice to see social conscience in a poet. Moreso when they write so well as you do.
Kethry

Here in the midst of my lonely abyss, a single joy I find...your presence in my mind.  Unknown



Suetang
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since 2001-03-07
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Melbourne, Australia
7 posted 2003-10-30 10:08 PM


Thank you all for your wonderful comments.  I felt so strongly about writing this and I am in the process of writing another one called "My Disability Is Not A Curse".

Sadelite - Thank you so much for your comment and I was humbled to read that you were printing off a copy for your husband to take to work.

Thank you all so very much.

Take care.........Sue

I am in motion
I am blue
Love is an ocean
I'm anchored in you
- Shawn Mullins

Magnus
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8 posted 2003-10-30 10:14 PM


Sue,  I understand this very well.  My
brother in law has been confined to a wheel
chair for about 30 years now.  The victim
of being ejected from a car that had overturned.  Four boys returning from a night in Mexico,  underage drinking.  He
has difficulty speaking,  is partially
paralyzed on one side of his body,  had
to go through extensive therapy just to
be able to feed himself.  Yes,  he is
still a person,  just as much as we are,
with a unique personality,  his own ways
of doing things and not filled with self
pity....We allow him to be as much of
an individual as possible...I would not
want to be in his shoes...and I am very
thankful for what I have....his presence
reminds us of what we should be thankful
for.  I am thankful that I still have him.

Thanx for sharing this message, it is very
true and says a lot about another part of
our humanity that is not unique...they all
deserve respect and the chance to live a
life,  a life of individuality...

rambling_words
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since 2003-10-29
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London, Ontario, Canada
9 posted 2003-10-30 10:17 PM


How true, I know I have done it. Although I try not to. This is a perfect example of how we should take everything at face value and not predetermine anything.

John

GG
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since 2002-12-03
Posts 3532
Lost in thought
10 posted 2003-10-30 10:21 PM


you are always so compassionate sue
And it always brings a smile to my face.
You have a soft heart...
Beautiful
Always, Alyssa

- And so it was that time stood still -
     (blink, breathe, stand, fight)

Suetang
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since 2001-03-07
Posts 5187
Melbourne, Australia
11 posted 2003-10-30 10:26 PM


Barry

I am so very grateful for your wonderful response and I guess so many people are just ignorant and are embarrassed to be around handicapped people.  I have learnt a lot about this from my volunteer work which I am loving.

John

Thank you so much for your comment, and, yes, I think we are all guilty of staring at a handicapped person or treating them differently.

Alyssa

You always say the most lovely things about my writing and I am always truly humbled by all you say.

Thank you all so very much.

Take care........Sue

I am in motion
I am blue
Love is an ocean
I'm anchored in you
- Shawn Mullins

jwesley
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Spring, Texas
12 posted 2003-10-30 10:29 PM


Extremely well said/put...

jwesley

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13 posted 2003-11-01 03:35 PM




(big hugggsssssssss) God Bless You, dearest friend, you are one of the most sympathetic and loving friends I have ever known in my whole life that I am blessed to have deep in my golden heart, and it breaks my heart to see so many point their fingers, insult, or think of those with handicaps, as they bleed just the same as us and we are all of the same heart and we should love them all and open to them! (wipes tears) You truly are a comforting angel on Earth, sweet friend, God Bless You and everyone, we all love you so much! You have such a beautiful heart, sweet Sue, thank you for sharing!



May love and light always shine upon you!

Love,
Noah Eaton

I don't need no proof when it comes to God and truth
I can see the sun set and I perceive

***Live***

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