Statesboro, GA, USA
a "grudge" is a colloquialism for unforgiveness. Is it a good thing for someone to be unforgiving of someone else? I don't think so, since it only allows the bitterness of someone else's wrongdoing to have control or influence over you. Of course that doesn't mean that forgiveness comes easy. Firstly it is an act of the will that has to be reaffirmed again and again, against new waves of offensive emotions and memories. Feelings don't always come in line with our choices, but given time, they will. As a Christian, I think radical forgiveness has a Theological basis ... If God, through Christ, has forgiven the whole of my sins, then who am I to refuse someone my forgiveness for a particular sin? However, none of this makes it easy or any less of a problem when I feel a "grudge" for someone. But it does clarify things for me, and help me make up my mind.
One thing that strikes me though, is how easy I can have a grudge for someone over something fairly trivial, in comparison to wrongs I've seen done to others. Jesus said love your enemies. I don't know that I've ever really had any. I have a hard enough time, sometimes, loving people who simply inconvenience me or insult me unwittingly, but who can hardly be called enemies. God help me if I ever really encounter the malice of an outright enemy.
I do know that if I offend other people, I would want them to forgive me.
On a lighter note, think of how the word "grudge" sounds ... like "sludge". But then again it sounds like fudge too. Oh well, I guess sound-comparison doesn't help us on this one.