Thatís true. Sinead in not literally a song, but she is an unforgettable voice for me, while her looks may change with age and her presence may cease to be, Iíll identify with her voice for life.
I suppose thatís why I have no trouble finding beauty to be a philosophical issue, because one seeks out beauty in life and, usually, for the duration. All forms of beauty. Such as ďa love and pursuit of wisdom by intellectual means and moral self-disciplineĒ (dictionary.com) which is one definition of philosophy, and another is the investigation of truths, here, more particularly, in the workings of nature: Human nature.
Maybe Iím wrong, but I think even a stoic has to ďpassionatelyĒ embrace the ideology of stoicism to free himself from passion, pain, and happiness.
Itís natural for humans to be drawn to the beautiful aspects of other humans. What each one feels is a beautiful aspect is up for individual selection, and itís a process that changes from one day to the next--thank goodness, because a strong relationship depends on such. Weíre not forever young, on the outside, and such ďstaysĒ in physical attributes do carry too much merit (and plastic surgery/Botox injections) for most, when we should be more accepting of age due to what we attain together, around us, and within us in our years.
Itís a painful process of growing and learning, sometimes.
Iím highly attracted to older men. My ex-husband was 14 years my senior. One day he came to me and said he was aging and I wasnít. This produced too much inner struggle for him, so he let me go. 9 years of marriage thrown away. All because he could not accept that I deeply loved him, and he felt I would eventually leave him for a younger man. I could not do anything to relieve him of his insecurities. Not only did I not leave him for a younger man, but I didnít date for nearly 2 years afterward, due to being so wounded inside. I felt like my appearance was a curse!!!
Especially when I finally did begin to date again! JEEESH! Itís scary out here!
Lots of stories, but here are two examples:
1: I was asked out by my 22 year old Western World Lit classmate. I didnít even know he was asking me out due to not being able to entertain the thought at all. When I realized what he was asking? I said: ďOH MY GOSH! Iím so sorry. I didnít have a clue, but hereís one for you. My son is 22 and Iím old enough to be your mother.Ē Which he was equally shocked and we parted ways, respectfully; though he did go on to win a few bets in class about my age!! Little rascal.
2. I was working totally too hard, feeling very rundown to an unhealthy degree. Iíd even packed on quite a few pounds due to poor diet and terrible routine. I felt like haggard crap. I took a break and decided to visit my son in Germany. In that 2 week span I was inundated with male attention and a marriage proposal! TRAVEL abroad ladies. Travel outside your circle of self-cozying-state of depreciation and you may find youíre a goddess to too many.
but thatís my point. Step outside yourself, find your own attributes, and try to see them even when others donít, because we donít. Thatís human too. Just as human as NOT being able to see all the things that are not attributes, sometimes because of physical beauty and allure. We donít get to see how mean or abusive people are until after time has passed and their true colors come out on youÖbehind closed doors. So itís helpful to oneís self to be physically, mentally and emotionally strong enough for any kind of involvement with another. Sticking to oneís principles and having a good sound (though investigative) philosophy on life helps.