Sometimes hardship is a motivator too.
There's a kid sitting in my house, utilizing my internet, right now, who is the product of such hard knocks. His mom was a single parent for a long time, his step-dad adopted him, then his step-dad died, and he ended up here.
(He doesn't exactly live here, but nearly so.)
I met him a year and a half ago when my son brought him home and asked if we could "keep" him. I told him we could probably get away with it for about a week without my hubby knowing if he (the boy in question) was quiet. (Conditionally--his parents had to know where he was--I don't harbor run-aways.)
The boy has two parents--again--but um, guess what? There was trouble at home, because two parents sometimes means twice as much fighting, yanno?
The end to my story is that this kid just aced full scholarship to UNO, complete with dormitory, food vouchers, book allowance, etc. Wow, huh?
(That reminds me--he still has my Feinman series. *frown*)
I think I'll let him keep it!
Anyhow, he was quoted in the newspaper when they ran their annual graduation success stories. He said simply,
"Grades are something I can control."
He's very tough on himself, and I'm always going to worry about that for him.
But speaking of control, the guy in your example could have exercized some control himself. If not self-control, then birth control.
That is not just a woman's issue.
Love ya muchly, Mr. Grimm!
I edited this so it would read just a little more logically--I'm having some internet troubles, so sometimes I have to be quick. Or go make them stop downloading stuff. grrrr......I love my kids, though. *smile*
I just have to count heads for supper.