Santa Monica, California, USA
Hi Susan: RE: "When someone tells you they are divorced, two, three, four times...what is your first thought?"
My first thought is, "me, too!"
My first marriage, to my high school sweetheart, lasted 10 years. Ten years after that, I remarried. Lasted 12 unpleasant months. My third marriage has lasted 18 years so far.
I don't feel a need to lie about the number to anyone. I particularly don't feel a need to lie about it to another woman, since there ain't one, and I ain't looking.
People do make seem to make judgements about "divorce" though, just as they make judgements about everything else.
I tell wife Deb, only half in jest, that I married her for her record collection. I look at that as an affirmation of the "soul mate" possibility.