Member Rara Avis
During childhood we have unconditional love. When we grow up we lose that love and it seems a part of ourselves has died. As adults we try to reach unconditional love. The only way t recieve unconditional love as adults is to make that love a coinditioned one. I will love you like you are if you do something in exchange for it. We try to return to childhood.
I sure hope you're using an editorial we, Prudy, and not trying to speak for me and the rest of humanity? Again, in my opinion, what you're describing is a very selfish kind of love (and I don't use the word selfish disparagingly, either). I also think you're using the word family in an overly-restrictive way, and the word unconditional in a very non-restrictive way (there are always conditions, they're just not always tied to actions).
I hope other topics that are more philosophical arise in which I may take part in.
Your participation and opinions are certainly welcome, Prudy, but so far I think that's all you've really offered. Philosophy is usually a bit more reasoned than just "I believe," and typically involves some logical support for your beliefs. You've told us what you think, and that's cool, but you haven't told us why we should think as you do.
Dear Sir Ron, where one can find best deal for love?
At the risk of waxing poetic, Tom, your own heart is usually the best place to start. And NOT looking for the best deal helps, too. Look, instead, for an equitable deal. The rewards don't always have to be big, they just have to always be bigger than the cost.
Hi Ron! Re: "Suffering is the cost of living." Don't tell me you're a closet Buddhist!
I'm not in the close about much of anything, Jim.
I'm more of a pragmatist, I suspect. Anyone in perpetual bliss, who never suffers at all, is getting a chemical assist (and, in return, suffering more than most). My point, however, wasn't that suffering is inevitable (even if it is). My point, rather, was that the cost usually doesn't have to be as high as many people make it and the rewards don't have to be as minimal as many people accept.
quote: You still talking to me, Jim? Or to Tom?
Also, what is this "Sir Ron" and Sir whomever stuff about? Seems snarky to me, and while we disagree on many things ...
In my experience, flippant nicknames are rarely welcome. I think you might have done that to others once or twice, too, Jim? Then again, that feeling of unwarranted familiarity might just be me. Every time a waitress calls me sweetheart or darling, her tips drops another twenty-five percent.