Statesboro, GA, USA
So when one is cryng for lost heavenly love, is it mainly a whining? or simply because one is not behaving well enough to get it?
I think "lost heavenly love" may have one of two meanings. Estrangement or final loss. If it is the first, then no matter how bitter the separation may seem, it is temporary. If Jesus cried "My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?", then so may we. And so may we hope to find God's grace even in times of struggle and darkness. About the second kind ... I have no pretentions of knowing when that point is for anyone. I'm only sure that God is longsuffering and willing that none should perish.
Also, as to "not behaving well enough", I don't think it's that. What I'm speaking of has more to do with heart direction, and the birth of faith, than mere behavior. Though behavior is important, love always goes beyond the question of just keeping rules. That's probably why Paul spoke more of Faith and Love in connection with salvation, and reminded us of the powerlessness of the Law in that regard. The paradox is, we need God's help to even begin to love him. This is where the sense of "absence" may be redemptive, and result in a seeking that eventually finds.