Member Rara Avis
So, anytime I'm not having an orgasm I'm uncomfortable?
No, of course not, Amy. However, generally, any time you want an orgasm, it's going to be the result of discomfort. Similarly, while any time you're not eating doesn't necessarily mean you're hungry, you nonetheless (again, generally) only eat when you're hungry. Our greatest physical pleasures are ALL a release from tension.
... but I'm not sure why you think moments of bliss cannot occur. Does bliss have to be constant to really be bliss?
I'm merely accepting the defining premise of the originating poster, Amy, and going from there. If the definition of bliss is "complete happiness" or "heaven," then no, I don't think it can be fleeting. I think the connotations of bliss, as opposed to happiness, suggest more.
But, as I said earlier, it doesn't greatly matter. Even if we agree on a definition that includes only momentarily bliss, I don't believe bliss or happiness is a viable goal, but rather, a potential consequence. Remember, your actions are determined by your goals. If your goal was bliss, Amy, you could just sit on a roller coaster all day long. Or get that lobotomy I was talking about earlier. A destination doesn't determine (or eliminate) the vehicle. I honestly believe that people who chase happiness as a principal goal too often choose the easier vehicles -- like drugs, alcohol, or fleeting relationships. The people who shift their focus to the vehicle as a goal, not just a means of arriving, seem to make better choices and, ironically, are more likely to find a more lasting happiness.
And please- what I do with my fiance (or with myself) in my bedroom is supposed to be as damaging as sleeping around?
Not sure where that came from? Was it directed at me, Amy?