Regina, Saskatchewan; Canada
"Do you surround yourself with people that have no outward appeal to feel safe in the notion that they are smart, warranting a friendship or conversation?"
No, if I don't like being around someone it is not because of something they are or naturally have, but because of something they may do and keep on doing. Evil, indecent, unsmart, etc is not what people are, but it is what they do , sometimes even for a living. But in my opinion there are no evil, indecent, or unsmart people, there are only evil, indecent, unsmart deeds. The difference between a woman in prostitution and prostitution, is that the woman isn't the one that is indecent, but it is what she does that is indecent. This is a very important distinction. If one treats a woman in prostitution as if she is indecent and void of honour, that is just one more way of mistreating her, instead of helping her.
If someone keeps dressing and artificially going out the way to put sex appeal at the front of physical manners, then I think that is more than just momentary looks. It is behaviour that reflects and influences attitude/mentality. And I believe this does diminish attention and esteem for more mental and spiritual things because people dwell upon physical attraction, and physical "statements", and then they often expect them to be the gate, before they even walk thro and give any attention to the garden.
I don't usually avoid people if they are friendly. But if they strut a bad manner often, and it is a predominant part of their manners, and even their lifestyle then I usually do have misgivings about that person and end up avoiding him/her.
"Doesn't that leave you with the chance of passing up what could be a positive learning experience between two people? "
Yes. But I'm willing to pass that up if someone's bad manner is overwhelming.