Karen... you got me all wrong. I, too, started eating pills after my mom died. That's not what I mean. Like I said, I took the original question to be more of a hyperbole... I mean, your Xanax supposedly makes you not freak out, and my Paxil supposedly makes me less depressed.
I wasn't saying anything you did was unfair to anyone's memory. I was talking about my mother. That's none of my business, and anyway, we all have to define that for ourselves. Besides, we tend to be our own harshest critics, and the things I did not do for my mother still plague me with guilt, while my friends look at me with pity and say "Oh, honey, it's not your fault!" I would say the same to them, and believe it when I said it to them... but it doesn't matter. I ain't buying it.
So the question becomes... should we remain guilty and tortured? I thik it puts an interesting spin on the original question... sure, it might be easy to say we'd erase a cheating lover from our memories... we don't deserve that pain. But should I erase putting my mother in a home and letting her die from my memory? (I know, I know... it wasn't my fault... *chuckle*)
Do we deserve a reprieve from the suffering we brought onto ourselves (or worse) onto other people? What if I cheated on my lover... should I be able to erase my painful memories of the pain I caused him?
I'm not talking about psychotrpoic drugs here. I believe everyone has the right to healthcare... we were talking about ethics in a nursing class yesterday, about how a drunken trucker killed a family in a car accident on a notorious stretch of road... they sent him to an area hospital. Well, turns out one of the people he killed was a nurse at thishospital, and her co-workers had to care for him. His carelessness caused his injuries, and not to mention, took several lives. But he was entitled to the healthcare.
I guess that really has nothing to do with having a psychological condition, I just happenned to think of it. But managing emotional pain and wiping the slate clean in a hypothetical sense are two different things, and two different moralities are involved.