MONO NO AWARE
without saddness, depression, how would one really know the value of those miraculous happy moments...they go hand in hand, and granted, for some, MONO NO AWARE, exists more...but..I also echo Essorant's comment....have always felt like meds are a temporary fix...to an existing problem which must eventually be dealt with...but don't misunderstand, some meds are essential to life, depending on the health problem...there are needs for meds within the right perspective...
I believe we are what we think and believe...if we believe we are fortunate people...love life, look for the good in life and in others, we will eventually believe that this is true...
We tend to over anylize way to much, instead of simply accepting the inevidable to be...allowing us to move on, believing that eventually we may know the answers to our questions, and if not....pssst, so what? Not every question has one reason, but many, and every single minute particle, and atom has a purpose, both mundane and significant..
Depression, gives us the opportunity to realize how sorry we feel for ourselves...until we look at the problems of others...and then realize, there is always someone worse off then we are, and so, in that we are fortunate. Depression has it's place, if in moderation...I guess it all depends on where each of us want to be?
self exploration, perhaps allows us to see and like who we are...forgive what we have done...and go forth refreshed, a new, however, if we do not realize how we hurt others and the implications on the lives of others, then we will indeed stagnate our own growth. You've heard it said, others cannot help one, unless that one wishes to help himself/herself? It's true...sometimes I think depression might be another word for words like self sympathy...denial...refusal to accept what is...perhaps not having the ability to realize, that we just can't have everything our way or control others to our way of thinking....
Allowance/acceptance are great big words, in a very small room...which opens doors...
I think, we've become a world of quick fixes...finding names and labels for everything that hurts, offends...and excuses unacceptable behavior. But, I also believe mental illness, is not the dark abysis that people believed it was many years ago...as well as, mentally retarded...handicapped...etc. We've come a long way...I believe all we can do is stop blaming others, do some self examination that is really honest...identify our own problems and needs as truly what they are, be it obsession, wanting what we cannot have and acting out like children, and really learn to like who we are...love ourselves for the good and bad in ourselves, as long as we try very hard not to harm others or control others...we can't, and never will...all we can do,is control ourselves...we are our own pilots...we are capable of amazing things...self healing...learning to love through understanding our own needs and hearts...and allowing others their own growth, regardless of where they are with the lives...the only thing that matters is what we're doing, and how we're doing it...we can care for others, but we can't make them...we can't deem ourselves their saviors...what we can do, is live our lives by example, to the best of our ability...and if we need help with that, then by all means seek help...there is certainly nothing wrong or humiliating by saying...I need help, I don't have all the answers...and then consentrate on making that flesh a better place to live...without deception, free of distrust...and willing to love the home we've made for ourselves????
Does that make any sense?