Member Rara Avis
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Not destruction -- completion.
I hope the term “soul mate” is the most misused and therefore misunderstood in our common parlance—or vice versa, that is's the most misunderstood and therefore the most misused. If there’s one we treat worse it would be a tragedy. Remember though, that anything I say may be wrong. I don’t pretend to have all the answers, but I know a few things and think some others, and may think something else tomorrow if I see things differently then…..so here goes….
I don’t think “soul mate” – the matching of souls – has anything to do with love. People who feel that joining, those who already match in that way, or who feel themselves growing toward it, are more likely to love…but that doesn’t mean the matching/joining of souls IS love, or requires love in order to happen. Lust is also separate from love, and even further removed from joining as “soul mates.”
Every religion I know of makes the growth of the soul one of its most desired components, and most of ‘em make it a main purpose of human existence to care for the spirit you were born with and make it better by the time you die. A religion being about something doesn’t make it right, but if virtually all religions share a common tenet, even if those same religions contradict each other in very basic ways, it’s a pretty good indication that there’s at least something valid in that common thread. So, I think we can make the assumption that it’s about growth, about building spirit, adding a good ring to the tree and maybe a branch or two, while we’re here.
Now a different tack: In the orphanages of communist Rumania, children were raised like puppies in a puppy mill, with a little exposure to language maybe, but no “human contact” with their keepers, body service with no bonding. They became stunted monstrosities, with twisted souls if there ever were such, because they were left without the opportunity for their souls – their spirits – to be taught, shaped, nurtured, through contact with other spirits. In other words, there’s little or nothing to change bad growth in a soul that’s isolated. It may remain unique, but the goal is for the soul to become better, stronger, smoother, more resilient, not just unique.
There are soul mates out there, that’s an absolute certainty, and it is possible for one person to find another person whose spirit matches the shape of their own so well that when they meet there is a binding, a knitting of the fabric that happens without either of them trying for it in any way. I think that when the bonding comes, it is a bond which will exist from that point on, regardless of space, time or any other dimension, and once it has been formed, may even exist in the past.
Where souls come from is something no one knows, but I don’t accept the idea that all souls form in pairs, yin and yang, and then spend eternity seeking each other after they are split asunder. Just my predilection, no particular reason except that it sounds ‘way too pat, too chick-flick romantic, far too much like Sweet William and Bonnie Barbara Allen (moderns read “Sleepless In Seattle”), to be real. It may happen that way, and I do think it occasionally does happen in a similar way, perhaps with twins….but not as a matter of course.
One thing that does seem real is, if the match is clear enough, and one or both of the two people sensitive enough, one may be aware of the other’s existence even at a great distance, without their ever encountering each other physically. Such people simply know, in the way that the tuned circuit of a radio resonates to some distant station that the listener will never see….or at a more intimate but far more mundane level, the way you will often “just know” when someone is staring at you, whether you can locate them physically or not.
I also think that everything I’ve spoken of so far, is so rare that it’s barely on the radar screen. Far more common is for people who are drawn to each other for other reasons – even lust – to grow together in spirit until they reach a soul mating, knit by time and growing in much the same way as those natural pairs.
Given that the whole idea is to grow your soul and make it better, given that isolation leaves the soul with little nurture and with no way to correct the twists that come from random growing, and given that bonding with other spirits does provide those things, I think that one who finds a soul mate, or feels growth toward soul bonding with another person, but fails to take advantage of the opportunity, cheats their own soul, and will inevitably come to the end of life, as less than they could have been.
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[This message has been edited by Ratleader (02-06-2006 11:43 PM).]