I gotta agree with Kacy, as well, I love philosophizing also, but usually no one wants to listen, especially woman, or I've been deemed "a know it all", when actually, I'm asking the question, "What do you think?" or please join in?
Also, I've gotta take advantage thanking Serenity very much, adding this Website is the very first that has allowed me express, (although afterwards, sometimes there were condiscending comments) but several confident woman in here have become good friends, b/c they agree or disagree but have a passion driven ability to discuss, share & allow. I find that invigorating!
Also, while I'm on the subject, I've had the same experience with some male poets in here as well, fewer then the women, but I'm thankful for those men, b/c they are intersted enough to allow others to vocalizes, share and learn.
There are many woman/men to, who if they don't like what you have to say, they shut you down? Or come back with a very rude comment to shut you up? Then ignore you forever or don't allow you in their click. It used to hurt me deeply, back then, but now, I could care less, as I figure, those people are not open minded and would have nothing to offer to a friendship, and do not want to learn or stand back and give someone else their day in the sun...or are jealous and afraid when others suceed.
Also, in the past, I've known so many boys and men growing up, that are intimidated by a smart woman.
And so, it was learned behavior on my part...in order to fit in, I adopted a dead head so to speak, or later in life, was surpressed of my opinions/beliefs and contributions to conversation, saying "OHHHH Lee J. your so deep" that I learned to be quiet, shy and afraid to share. I suppose that is one of the reasons for my poetry...it is the one place that I can go and express.
I also ditto Ice/Ford...and agree with him totally.
Regarding keeping sex from your man because your angry with him...or you don't get your way, is only going to come back and bite you right in the nose.
Kindness flourishes...and Serenity, I've gotta say, if only more of society would listen and be open minded, we might intellectually be further along.
We should be, I think anyway.
Thank you for this Karen...yes, Lets keep going and share some insight....actually Karen, in answer to your question, I'm thinking that woman's sufferage has come a long long way, and there are certainly more open minded secure and confident men these days who find a woman's mind stimulating and I don't mean sexually. I really wish men could understand and allow, and realize that a lot of woman are not turned on by just good looks, but by a kind and allowing mind. To me, that is so beautiful.
...but there are still those men who think the only thing that woman are here for is to give them plesaure and talk about sex...I guess because they don't know how to relate to a woman....I dunno? Or perhaps that is the only way they feel good about themselves, but all talk with sexual connotations, to me is a turn off. I want to know more...yanno?
There are also people who are afraid to learn/change...
Philosophy is a grand awakening, and boy oh boy, if nobody else wants to listen, nature will not only listen, but also respond, thru her storms, animals, stars, flowers, trees, etc. hehe, now I know Ford understands that comment.
[This message has been edited by LeeJ (12-02-2005 12:51 PM).]