I'd also like to add, it has been, my experience, to have found some, not all, men to be much more sensitive then women.
Once, a long time ago, and I feel very bad about this...a man I worked with wore shorts to work, we were always kidding each other, and so, I kidded him about his legs...thinking it all to be in fun...but, I hurt that poor souls feelings, and he never wore shorts again.
I also have quit a few male friends who have been treated badly by their wives, abused verbally, cheated on...and they are less apt to bounce back and trust again...they're afraid...very afraid....and it's so sad...my oh my, if only we thought first before we acted out and hurt so many others?
But yes, growing up the only girl in the neighborhood, I also found that a lot of boys were intimidated by smart, successful and independent girls...
They seem to fear that word independence, which doesn't mean they are less able to love you, but probably diverse intellectual woman with a hunger for knowledge, travel, cultures, history. But they don't need to be with a man 24/7, yanno?
There is nothing wrong with both partners having quality time of their own, without the other...I don't think anyway.
Philosophy is thought provoking and fresh, alive, keeps the brain active....
but I do think women have a lot of great and valuable ideas to add to conversation, especially Karen...hehe, it's just that so many have been and are still being surpressed by men...
and it is still not altogether sociably acceptable by men. Not all men, mind you...
I work for a boss who doesn't like it when women have an opinion which is opposite from his. He doesn't like to hear the truth, he takes it as a personal attack against his personality...it's his culture, I think, his upbringing...he wants you to simply smile and agree...I can't do that..., I just can't.
But in the generations to come, this to will change more and more, with time and understanding, and that percentage of men out there who will teach their children and grandchildren, to allow women... I hope?
I believe, it's our job to teach our daughters, sons, it's ok and very important to have opinions and views, and they should never compromise they're beliefs or identity simply to be a couple...to teach them to be confident, self supporting and content... and respectful to the opinions/beliefs of others, the importantance of sharing, and allowing as well as listening. To be open to ideas...of others, and not fear the darkness, but to explore it and themselves?