"there’s less, little, or no social incentive for him to remain
or begin in the first place. It is estimated that some forty percent
or more of America’s children are being raised by a single parent
and guess who overwhelmingly that is."
I just love the unspoken assumption everyone has that single parents (i.e. single mothers) are a bad thing.
Look, if the only reason a husband would marry me is because he thought he had to take care of me, that's not a marriage I want. Marriage should be freely chosen and equally beneficial on the context of love, not financial need or social responsibility- the latter are just going to end up breeding resentment on both sides.
"I smile when Hush suggests that the only thing the feminist movement did, was incline men to try different roles, such as being stay-at-home Dads"
Stephen, I must admit that I smile when I read this... because I don't recall ever saying that. I did say:
"The feminist movement freed men to seek alternatives beside husband and father in the traditional sense. I know stay at home dads, and families where the mom makes more."
I don't recall ever saying it was the only thing the feminist movement did?
If someone uses common sense, it would logically work out that if women are no longer dependent on men, men are no longer bound to "take care of" women. We wanted our autonomy and we got it, and I, for one, am happy with the results, because I can share a bed, unwed, with relatively little scrutiny. And if he decides to leave me one day, well, I'll be crushed, but it's his choice. He's not bound to me- I have a job and I can take care of myself. And if for some reason he left me, a single mother- I would hope he'd have enough love in his heart to still see the child, and participate in its upbringing, but all he's legally obliged to do is financially help me with the child he helped to make, and I think that's okay too. You can't force anyone to love a woman or a kid.
As for your quote:
" Laws can enjoin men to take paternity leaves, but it cannot make them have the desired sentiments. Only the rankest ideologue could fail to see the difference between the two kinds of leave, and the contrived and somewhat ridiculous character of the latter."
What on Earth is ridiculous or contrived about a paternity leave? Are men just supposed to not care that their wife had a child, and not want to spend time with them? No, they don't have the physical recovery to attend to, but they should be given that same opportunity to stay home and bond with their new child.
" A dependent, weak women is indeed vulnerable and puts herself at men's mercy. But that appeal did influence a lot of men, a lot of the time. The cure now prescribed for male irresponsibility is to make them more irresponsible. And a woman who can be independent of men has much less motive to entice a man into taking care of her and her children."
boy Stephen, that makes me a little sick. Is the answer that we women should give up our careers and independence, just so men can be comfortably chained back by our sides? Force women to give up dreams, hopes, and autonomy, so men have to give up their ability to choose the bachelor life over married life? I'm sorry, but that suggestion just disgusts me.