"Sexual preference, whether it is in the form of pederasty, homosexuality , or just plain adultery, is NOT an inborn feature in people ... it is aquired. And those who say it is pre-programmed, offer nothing scientifically evidential to support that idea."
Have to partially disagree with you Stephanos. Pederasty-- an adult act toward a child, that requires acquiring a childís trust or the manipulation of a child, Yes, I have to agree.
Adultery-- I think itís more feasible to express how humans try to resist the temptations, because we are pre-programmed to pro-create. To pro-create there has to be a sex drive. Whether it goes into over-drive or not does depend on the human. Regardless, science is very busy trying to help us alter the pro-creation part.
But homosexuality? It doesnít matter what my beliefs are, letís look at the wee periods of a childís development.
There are young boys that exhibit effeminate characteristics, and young girls that exhibit masculine characteristics at a very early age. Ever held one while they cried, because the other kids picked on them or rejected them? Their differences are identifiable by other children, why not science? There are many children that do not completely fit into the gender skin they were born in. And they come from very normal families. Things get really twisted up as they mature. Effeminate males and masculine females are rarely accepted by either peer, let alone potential mates. What are they to do? Iíve seen these children grow and mature into extraordinary adults, loving, kind, goal oriented, hard working, with all the values any human can have, and be completely rejected. And I do want to clarify that not all effeminate males/masculine females are destined to be homosexuals. They are treated as if they are, or most people suspect them to be. Most people suspect me to be straight. Is it anyoneís business? But I was accused once of being a Dyke in highschool, simply because I excelled in sports. I didnít even know how cruel that word was, but it did give me a pretty good idea of how society wanted to box me in, figure me out, and label me.
I also want to clarify that I do not feel all those who prefer same sex start out this way. Iím only referring to those few that I know for a fact did.
As a mother, care giver, teacher, aunt, neighbor, friend, Iíve come to recognize the children and adults that Iíve developed bonds with as gifts to me. They teach me valuable lessons about who they are, and what I am to them, or what I need to be. I donít know everything. Iíll not feel foolish for caring for them and respecting them either way. No matter what science says. I donít trust science, I trust my heart on this one.
And if homosexuality is something that is ďcorrectableĒ within a person, then wouldnít everyone be encouraged to send their child off to some ďcorrectional straight campĒ during the wee periods of self-discovery and normal curiosity toward same-sex? Government funded, mandated? Or would it just be for the elite who can afford to straighten their kids out?
What about hermaphrodites? Babies that are born, having both sex organs. Parents have to choose which they want, boy or girl? Are doctors just doing away with the unwanted organ identifier? There are many adults who still have both, intact. How do they fit in or out of the box?
We, who sit here and have minimal problems with our social belonging, are so lucky.
Which brings me to these questions and thoughts about the legal, philosophical, and spiritual aspects of marriage/same sex marriage issues within this thread:
Has our modern philosophy-religious-laws institutionalized something that canít really be defined for any one person, such as love?
Are all the marriages that took place before marriage certificates not really marriages, but some other kind of joint venture?
Which is more righteous: To walk alone for your entire life, because society or your religious beliefs do not support same sex marriage, or to live a complete lie with someone of the opposite sex, for the sake of God and humanity?
Are Homosexual Christians simply a contradiction in terms, or males and females who believe in Christ? Feel free to cross-reference to any belief.
The same as homosexual citizens, who believe in their rights?
And does 100 years of marriage between two couples (my parents and my grandparents) make their marriages more ideal, than say, a couple thatís been together for 10 years, each a divorcee, and each deeply devoted to their new spouses. In Godís eyes, in societyís eyes?
But my grand parents canít stand each other, so one lives upstairs, and the other downstairs.
And since the young couple has already had their shot at what might have been the ideal, does that mean that no matter what they try to establish onward, itís a tainted endeavor?
If we continue to link sex to marriage, then why bother with marriage at all, since many people have sex before marriage. Whatís the point?
And am I the only one that finds social exclusivity a bit scarey? Thereís always somebody casting you out, or trying to induct you in. Somebodyís always got to be the ring leader, or somebody gets high horsed and pillages a village. Seems a little quasi-cultish in nature to me, or imprisoning, Aristocratic, Boxed orthodox, Supreme-ish, group self-righteousness, or something not quite....tolerant, Maybe I need drugs to help me overcome the social anxieties of it all.
I mean Iím all for matrimonial sanctity, but Iíll not enter into any kind of pact with society as to the hows, what, when, or wheres Iím gonna sanctify my marriage. Weíre just two names on a piece of paper...the rest is our business.
Whether same sex marriage is right or wrong seems irrelevant under attack. Their bonds will be strengthened by the human need to cling to other humans that accept them as they are. They may never get a piece of paper for that.
And love and acceptance are real factors people. No matter what laws govern us, or how much hell the world brings down on a person for loving someone, they will love them, and that much harder. The depth becomes fathomable to them then~
I think all walks of life understand that to varying degrees.
But the legalities of it all, leaves such a gay area. I donít mean that as a pun. I mean that as a plight for the pursuit of happiness.
I donít know how I can trust a law that establishes only my ideals. I donít know how I could trust a God that loves only me.
Forgive me folks. I have few days off to write, so I have to get it all in there at once.