Member Rara Avis
It only takes one person to bring an issue into court. Obviously it is out of the hands of the other to keep it out of court, so it seems to me that the one who doesn't want religious issues decided by the court is at a decided disadvantage in following your advice, Ron.
Not true. Both individuals are responsible for the issue ending up in court, Denise. The one who demands, yes, but also the one who refuses to surrender. Each makes a choice, just as they once made a choice to bind their lives together. Now they have to live with their choices, and frankly, that seems both fair and just. The kids, after all, have to live with the choices and they didn't have any hand in making them.
Two people joined as one, willingly accepting the responsibility to bring new life into this world. That choice was not without consequences for both. Trying to reverse that choice won't be without consequence, either. Once bound, always bound, and if they can't work together, someone will have to pay. Each of them accepted the potential for that burden long ago.