No Karen, I don't think God evolves given that He is timeless and is therefore not subject to time constraints, and He also says of Himself that He is the same yesterday today and forever, but I think He has to present Himself to us within the reference of the time framework since that is all we are familiar with, sort of like Him 'speaking our language' so we can relate to Him in some measure, given our finite abilities, does that make any sense? I hope so!
The bible also says God is love, yet goes on to say if you don't do right you will burn in an everlasting hell. Can you imagine doing that to your own child no matter what they have done?
Susan, No, I couldn't, which led me to start studying this topic extensively and I think you would be very pleasantly surprised if you checked out a literal word for word translation from the available ancient manuscripts, such as Young's Literal Translation or Concordant Literal New Testament. You won't be able to find 'hell' or 'eternal' or 'everlasting' connected with punishment or torment. What you will find are terms like Hades (which simply means grave or the unseen), Gehenna (a burning trash dump near Jerusalem) and Tartarus (a place devoid of light where the angels who gave up their sovereignty, i.e, neglected their high position) are held until judgment. You would also see that any punishment mentioned is qualifed by a time reference (age, eon, age-abiding, age-lasting, etc.) and it is not punitive in nature, but cleansing, purifying, purpose driven and redemptive.
There were literal words that God could have chosen in place of the time qualifying words that He did choose to use if 'eternal' or 'unending' were what He wished to convey, but He didn't. Poor translations by imperfect people and traditions of men and religion have given us a tyrant instead of a true revelation into the heart of God and of His purposes.
I've recently learned that God deals with mankind through time designations. He mentions a period before the eons, past eons, present eons, portions of eons, impending eons, the eon of the eons, and the Consummation, which is the end of all time designations.
In a literal translation you will find that believers are not given 'eternal' life through faith, they are given the blessings of aionian (Greek word pertaining to time) life, beginning in the here and now, the present eon, and continuing into the two future remaining eons following their receiving immortality upon Christ's returning in the clouds to take them to be with Him forever prior to His establishing His earthly Kingdom in Jerusalem (the next eon on the timeline), followed by the New Heavens and the New Earth (the last eon mentioned).
To my understanding from my studies so far, it seems that unbelievers will miss out on these blessings (the peace and joy in this present life that comes from knowing God as a Father and not as a Judge, and they will still be in the grave during the next two eons) after which time they will be raised from the dead, judged according to their deeds, and will receive some sort of chastisement that culminates in the second death (Lake of Fire, which could be figurative, as sulphur and fire are used in the Bible to represent God's purification), whereafter the second death is abolished, everything is subjected to Christ and then Christ in turn subjects everything to God the Father and then God becomes All and in All (1 Corinthians 15:22-28). This is called the Consummation, when every knee will bow and every tongue confess that He is Lord, to the praise of His glory (I forget the chapter and verse at the moment). Some believe now and are saved through faith, and some will not believe until they see God face to face. But I believe that all will eventually be reconciled to Him. And all of this is made possible only because of the redemptive work of Christ for all mankind.
My own perception of God has greatly improved since I began studying with a literal word for literal word translation. So much of what caused confusion before has been cleared up for me. And if God could be understood this way through a literal translation, instead of in the fearful tyranical presentation found in most church creeds, why would anyone not want it to be true, or at least study it out for themselves, in the hope that it might be? I don't know, but I do know that eternal torment seems to be a concept that most people don't want to part with.
LOL Sorry for the book!
p.s. God loving and embracing even His enemies, wow, what a concept!