Yucaipa, California, USA
I'm on an against all trip today or something... I don't know exactly why. But I must state that IMHO Ron doesn't know what he's talking about with the "Love at first sight" and "Lust" topic. One very major portion of love IMHO that is not in friendship is unity. "You complete me" is a phrase we've all heard, am I right? If you're wondering about my "Love at first sight" explaination, please just be patient; "What is love" is a much more necessary topic at the moment. Love IS nothing. Nothing at all... Love is not a thing. Love is an emotion. Emotions cannot be explained with words, they must be expirienced to understand. Let me give you an example. If you laugh at a joke, how would you explain why you laughed to a person who doesn't know what humor is? It's impossible, you'd have to tell him a joke, would you not? Same concept, reguardless of how vague humor is when compared to love. You have to expirience love to know what it is, and even then you can't explain it, you can only feel it deep within your heart. So I can't tell you what love IS, and IMHO nobody can... But just about anybody can tell you what some of the many typical characteristics held in a loving relationship are. Now on to the lust issue...
What is lust? Hmm... Well again, lust is an emotion. Webster defines lust as a "Licentious craving; sexual appetite" [Webster's Revised Unabridged Dictionary, Definition 4]. Hmm... If this is true, then a married couple would not be lusting after eachother, for such a thing would not be considered immoral, unjust, or impure. At least not to society in general.
Alright, Are we all agreed that lust is of the flesh? At least in the sense that it is being viewed upon today? Good.... Let us continue. Love at first sight. Now, Love at first sight CAN be lust, but not necessarily. Not one lousy little bit. It is possible to look at someone and to suddenly be filled with a love for that person. Unlikely, but possible. Just looking into the eyes of that person makes you feel good inside, makes you feel good to be a human being. Just looking at the person you can see what you haven't seen in any other on the planet, exactly what you need in your heart, the other half of your inner spirit, the other half of you. If you want an explaination, go ask psychic's how they do that (and if you don't believe that at least a few psychics are real, just tell that to all the police departments who have used them in otherwise hopless cases... and got answers). Ask a dancer how they dance. Ask a poet how they write. Somehow, it just comes to you. Sometimes, it's almost like someone is lighting the way for you. Sometimes it just is. And to me, thats as good an answer as any. Love is.
p.s. Ron, I meant no offense in this letter, and I'm sorry if I have in fact offended you. I'm just stating my humble opinion.
-Love is a dangerous emotion,
You can brighten the lives of others immensly with it,
Or You can destroy a person in a way that is unparalleled.