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no pink ribbons for me...thank you venus
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no pink ribbons for me...thank you venus |
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inkedgoddess Member Rara Avis
since 2002-11-19
Posts 7392Ohio 
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i'll go screaming into the night, before i let them take my breast, that nursed my babies , and fed many a man, a late night snack, and dont even think ill let them have this blonde mane, that looks so good with a pair of stilettos, that took years again, to grow back down my back, cause you just make women crazy, thats all, do this,do that, gave up the smokes, 30 years no fish no swine, no eggs, no cheese, and still they told me "you gotta get something cut out" okay, i read and read and read and read and cried and cried on the breast cancer boards, of the indignity and the cruel joke mother nature plays, not once but twice, or three times over, do the right thing, go go go, and still it gets some in the end......... so cruel to not only take a breast, and give a maybe 5 or l0 lifespan, but then to lose a lioness mane, i rather wear the roses right now, and put my head in the sand, cause the devil cant have my vanity so fast [This message has been edited by inkedgoddess (01-03-2003 07:40 PM).] |
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Aenimal Member Rara Avis
since 2002-11-18
Posts 7350the ass-end of space |
I understand you're feeling and am empathetic, and yet as a friend I disagree and think you should go. If not for yourself then for the children you fed. |
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Cpat Hair
since 2001-06-05
Posts 11793 |
one chooses to or not to... but if you chose not to..and you shorten the span..then you cheat perhaps yourself more than your vanity is worth... |
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garysgirl 
since 2002-09-29
Posts 19237Florida, USA |
inkedgoddess, that's right, lady, write about it. It does help.....sometimes, anyway. My Love's Grandmother's losing her hair was one of the things that bothered her so much. She wanted me to stay with her most of the time after she found out that cancer had come back. My husband had already been dead for about 3 years, and my daughter lives about 3,000 miles away, so I stayed with her a lot while her husband and son were working. We talked a lot and she told me a lot of things going on in her mind. I took her for her treatments when her son couldn't, so I was involved in that part, too. Now, on the other hand, I had a lump in my breast that turned out to be a cyst the size of an egg. They thought it might be cancer, until they operated and did a biopsy, which was benign. I'm still suppose to have it checked about every 6 months to a year...but I don't because I'm scared to. I hate to tell you when I had my last mammogram.... So, forgive me for telling someone else that they need to get checked. I don't take my own advice... Again, I didn't mean to say all that. Sorry, inkedgoddess. that I "talked" so much..... "Love makes the world go around" |
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Enchantress Member Empyrean
since 2001-08-14
Posts 35113Canada eh. |
Please ladies...go...do whatever you have to! My sister and I lost our beautiful mother when she was only 46 years old to this dreaded disease... Vanity shouldn't even enter into it. Myself..I'd rather wear the pink ribbon, and live. ~Heart-felt hugs, Nancy~ ~Time has cast a spell on you, |
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inkedgoddess Member Rara Avis
since 2002-11-19
Posts 7392Ohio |
thanks ladies, ethel, for sharing that story, its a hard one , i know, and i work in the medical field, so i see a lot of holes, even when it comes to which insurance company pays for what procedure. this is one ugly disease, and i konw its stupid, i just rather put my head in the sand for now |
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regards2you Member Elite
since 2002-10-01
Posts 3940California |
Obviously, you do not have breast cancer for you are much too wise to be so vain. My sister lost all her hair and the wigs now days, tho. expensive are a whole lot prettier then the bleached blonde she chose to be. Am bumping this as a reminder to all women, to get check-ups. Good write. Pat  ..without surrender, be on good terms with all persons.. |
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inkedgoddess Member Rara Avis
since 2002-11-19
Posts 7392Ohio |
regards, what i am saying is this tho: i do the supposed right things: the no smoking, vegetarian thing,since im l8, and go for checkups and when i had to have calcifications cut out and biospsied i spoke to women who did the right thing, also, had breasts removed and then, it ends up spreading somehwer else, it sucks, thats it plain and simple, sucks, |
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Midnitesun
since 2001-05-18
Posts 28647Gaia |
Chilling write. It's the babes I'd be concerned with, not personal vanity. They need YOU more than you need the breasts or the hair. |
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regards2you Member Elite
since 2002-10-01
Posts 3940California |
Inkedgoddess, Of course, you are right. It sucks! It is scary. I feel what you are saying and you have a right to say it. There are no guarentees. Really a down side of life. Period. I hear you. Hugs, Pat ..without surrender, be on good terms with all persons.. |
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ThisDiamond Member Rara Avis
since 2002-02-22
Posts 9353Michigan, USA |
I have always known that you are a strong woman. This write was direct, and forceful...the feelings are raw and genuine. I embrace you in your sorrow...a loss too much to accept quietly. Nothing fair about it. All my prayers to you my friend. TD |
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visitvenus Member
since 2002-12-30
Posts 101PA, USA |
InkedGoddess, Everything you say is true. I'm sorry for stirring this all up on you. I still believe that for me, it was the right thing to do - I'm a fighter and a planner to the very end. Even if it hadn't worked out for me, I'd want to know so that while I could try everything, I could also plan and prepare myself and my son for what was to come. I know survivors and I knew those who didn't win the fight. It's a nasty, sneaky, horrible disease and after doing all my research I found that most women who get breast cancer don't have ANY of the risk factors (so why they call them risk factors I'll never know). All I know is that I hope it does all work out for you as it has (so far - fingers crossed) for me. But I will still be wearing my pink ribbon. -Venus |
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BluesSerenade Member Patricius
since 2001-10-23
Posts 10549By the Seaside |
Only you can make the decision... but I am so sorry that you have to make them in the first place. I suppose what is important is that whatever one you choose to make, be at peace with it. I'm not very good at finding the words that might reach you but I wanted you to know my heart goes out to you~ |
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Bill Charles Member Patricius
since 2000-07-11
Posts 10619highways, & byways, for now |
inkedgoddess - I'm at a loss for words to say. Please take care of yourself, do the best you can, and My prayers and thoughts are with you... BC |
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inkedgoddess Member Rara Avis
since 2002-11-19
Posts 7392Ohio |
i think i better straighten this out because i hope i am not causing the wrong impression here.......I DO NOT HAVE BREAST CANCER..... my heart goes out for all its victims, and there by the grace of god, go, i........ as a woman, this issues touches deep........ i had breast calcifications about 3 years ago, they are clusterings in the breast that can become precancerous; thanfully they were biopsied and all was fine, stupidly, i decline going back to get a mamo.because it was a horrible experience, firstly, the radiology report sat for 2 weeks on the doctors, desk, then it took a lot of red tape and playing the medical insurance game to use the breast surgeon i wanted. so everything was fine, but i read so much about the disease, and the valiant women, the survivors, who go get the mamos again, after having had cancer, and then it comes back many times, so thats why ive just put my head in the sand......its dumb, i know it, and maybe ill change.......sometimes, i think if you think you are sick, you are, and if you think you are okay, you are....sometimes the more you read , the more you become the symptoms that you didnt even konw were part of whatever disease you are exploring..... just didnt want to leave this undone....never wanted to give the impression that i did in fact, lose a breast, or get a malignant report, and as i said, my heart goes out to all sisters going through anything remotely related to my experience. thanks, michele [This message has been edited by inkedgoddess (01-04-2003 02:11 PM).] |
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Aenimal Member Rara Avis
since 2002-11-18
Posts 7350the ass-end of space |
Well this clears up alot, and I understand because sometimes I too let things linger not wanting to face them. |
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Bill Charles Member Patricius
since 2000-07-11
Posts 10619highways, & byways, for now |
inkedgoddess - I wasn't sure what to think after ready this write. Thanks for the clarification. Happy New Year to you... BC |
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