Sycamore, IL, USA
I agree 100%. Having lost 2 children, I've felt that 'warm blanket'of care and dropped my jaw when one commented since I have other children, it doesn't hurt me like a parent who loses an only child. I'd never thought of measuring the hurt.
Our daughter and son-in-law were elated to be expecting twins after 4 years of praying for children. One was still-born and 2 best friends seemed to avoid them. I guessed it was because they didn't know what to say..(congratualtions or I'm sorry). Truly a sweet-sour time but not having them to talk to about it, definitely added to the sorrow. One breezed in, unannounced, enroute to an apppointment. She dropped off a baby gift, not having 5 minutes to spend. The other, mailed a gift without a card. When my daughter called them they both asked if they could call back, but didn't. I remember their hurt, now nearly 19 years later. Being there for someone is sooo important and appreciated.
Even though much is a blur at the time, friends, neighbors, coworkers,and acquaintences, just being there for you,is such a soothing balm.