Aren't we all just a bit too quick off the trigger in condemning another's actions? I'm not saying what the guy did was right--but i don't think they had 'mental problems'
thing is, love is different in different places. our ideas of love are quite innovative--ours is a Shakespearean invented love, one reinforced through sit-coms and decades of dramatization. Before that, most marriages were made out of convenience and the romantic love we expect between husband and wife was rare. Also, people had many more children--these were usually assets to the subsistence farming people were doing
as a Chinese American, I also have a very different idea of love for family--because of the one child policy, many of us didn't grow up with brothers and sisters; therefore, my generation often think of our cousins as brothers and sisters. To me, they are as close as my own right hand, and I would sacrifice as much for them as I would for my parents--does that mean families who rarely speak to their cousins are devoid of love?
We must keep clear that our mindset is not a universal constant but a phenomenon of our culture and upbringing. To that man, he was practicing what was considered the 'right thing' in his culture, just as kosher Jews are doing what they think is right by following methods of food preparation thousands of years out of date and Aztecs were 'doing the right thing' by practicing ritual cannibalism for their gods.
it's easy to judge by raising our noses and hard to step outside of the box and look at our culture as one color within an endless spectrum. but is it any better that we still allow people to drive cars which aren't fuel efficient? that we don't provide free health care for the indigent, as all other western countries are doing? maybe in a hundred years our grandchildren will look at us and consign the bunch of us to the 'crazy lunatics' drawer